where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone?[part 8]

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

oh jesus lou
it's turn your phone off time
but then why the hell should you have to?

what you trying to say?

when i was round seeing v briefly earlier , a friend of his turned up

he was v v good looking but i didnt fancy him at all from the minute he opened his mouth, because he so clearly knew he was, and was practised at using his charm to drop knickers wherever he went

he was not obvious in his technique but i could see it, trying to see if i would give him my number (i didnt)and other dull stuff

v said to me i would want to shag him and to keep it in my pants when i saw him

i said to v afterwards that his mate was good looking but i thought he was a nob, and he would never stand a chance with that attitude

the bloke was not safe and dull at all, that was clear, but he was a tosser

i dunno maybe safe is good?

i also just listened to a v drunk voicemail from my aforementioned trollied mate, left some hours ago, going from up and urging me to come out, to saying how good i looked earlier, to saying in a quite gentle voice i knew what he was trying to say and he was a big girls blouse and he loved me to bits etc

all v confusing

definitely pissed

sorry asbm it's that bad red wine.
I just got a text to say there is frost on his tent.
And really part of me is thinking serve you right you freak.
I am still a beacon until further notice. A sceptical one with its own infrastructure
but girls I have to tell you, he makes model trains. And then he dresses up in a special hat and rides on them. There. I've said it. Now I'm going to bed.
Lou hope you get some sleep and don't worry too much about all the stuff, it's strange how bitter people get about things - I've seen it before and what I thought it meant is regret, really. Claiming back things because they'd fucked up everything else.

oh men eh?
don't you just love em

cross posted
it will all seem clear in the morning
perhaps

oh pmsl here ninah
jesus he can't be that bad?
omg tell me he's not

yes

he does that
I need to bury my head in the pillow of shame asbm night night xx

oh ninah i cant help but laugh, i do apologise!

it will send me off to bed with a smile though

look

aww.stop it now
listen, only last week you were all loved up and things were all looking good
anyway nite all x

oh Ninah he sounds..interesting. As long as he doesn't make you wear an outfit like the fat controller

Is it just me or does it seem that a lot of men on these sites all have photos they have taken of themselves in the mirror?

er yeah they do
or by their motor or down their local being a geezer

I went to a model railway day out a few weeks ago, I didn't dare post it on here, but just for you, lou ... men in various degrees of station master dress up riding round a track on their 'locos'. Nuff said. Oooh my head
lol at photos on the sites, how would you take yourself in a mirror then? have to admit I pointed camera back at myself and did it that way, don't have many shots of me as I am the one taking them usually. But no I didn't add any with a glass in hand and a cheesy grin, or a car, big fish or other animal.
Off to a party later. A 7th tho lol

I don't have many photos of myself either. I turn ou tlooking like a criminal in a mug shot or a really bad BHS style drag queen. I think the old 'hold the camera out in front of you' is better then the 'take a photo of myself with my phone camera in the bathroom mirror' style.
And yes what is with the car shots...Im not 19 I don't care about your car...
Ninah - have fun at your party. Luckily its not Thomas themed.

too blooming right!

the mirror photo thing shows they are intelectually challenged i think, cos htey cant work out how to do it any other way.

either that or they just want you to see how fit they reckon they look

the ones with big fish displayed proudly in front of them are the worst

and i forgot to say, we cant have 2 lou's on here it will be too confusing!

and i know i spelled intellectually wrong in my last post

and by 2 lou's i mean using the shortened version to refer to us both, not the actual user name

hello all - ninah my db used to do that when he was late teens/early 20s (belong to model railway club). We used to tease him that the guy in charge was just trying to lure young boys in!!

I had the weirdest day yesterday. Saw exh and his new dcs a he came to watch ds2 at a sporting event - one of the new dcs is exFIL (exhs dad) reincarnated. I think that exh was very pleased I said that - he also thought the same. Then I held this dc for about ten mins - very weird feeling esp given family resemblance. Cute baby.

Last night had four hour text convo with exbf (oh yes). got alot off my chest to him and he alot to me. And the door has closed slightly but not completely and now the ball is more in my court than before. He would be prepared to continue to see me as and when while I was seeing samename but I can't do that. (called him a cheeky f*r for that)

But I am convinced we will remain in touch and I know there are feelings on both sides. Perhaps we will get together when we are OAPs lol.

I was upset last night but at the same time am pleased we had this big talk.

afternoon all.

how are we all getting on. i am suffering a terrible hangover.

mh i quite fancy that star trek movie. i've never liked any of them. its not my thing...but for some reason i saw the trailer recently and thought "wow, that looks good"

ninah - i dont think there's anything wrong with your fella's hobby. i can happily put up with a weird hobby. but when they come to have a range of weird hobbies like marvel its worrying.

speaking of marvel. he's cycling to london for his hols at the moment. and is giving me daily updates on his journey.

superman..... hitting a glitch. his 2 longest relationships are 5 months and 1 yr.and he blamed all his relationships failing on his work...

i now understand why.

he's under real pressure at work as they have just pulled forward all the schedules. and his contact with me has been cut down to bare minimum and some days nothing at all if i dont contact him first. it takes it all from him.and when he's coming in from work (13hr days in 30+ temperatures, 6 days a week)he's just grabbing something to eat and watching half hr tv then going to his bed at what is about 5pm my time. he's been like this since middle of last week.

i actually asked if he was looking to finish thinking he was just avoiding.

but he says not. and just blames his work.

i've asked him to call me tonight. but not holding my breath if he's to drained from work.

trying to keep my distance and not text or call him as i know he's already under a huge amount of pressure. and me giving him grief for him not contacting isn't going to help. just trying to keep things light when we do speak. hopefully in a week or so he'll make some headway to chill out a little. but thats probably unlikely.

rj - it looks okay on the trailers and has simon pegg in so i suppose it does have some good points. i watch most things but just wouldn't really make an effort to see iyswim.

hopefully he will phone, sounds like work is rreally taking it out of him at the moment and may not feel like he has a moment to himself. hopefully that's not going to carry on for too much longer?

lou - it's such a shame that life/circumstances get in the way sometimes. maybe it will be one day, like he says, he's only working abroad....do you really think that might change?

asbm - he hasn't suggested anything, he's not local so isn't sure of whats going on.

don't we all feel like pointing a laser gun at a man at some time or another?!?!

mh - paintballing rather than laser quest i'd pick. hurts like a bugger

scl i am glad the talking has helped, ikwym about still having feelings on both sides, and how that can be hard to come to terms with, when you know it cant work out long term

mutha, we will never end up together, he is just over 11 yrs younger than me and wants kids eventually, and i have 4 , plus i am sterilised

it was one of the things we talked about before we split all that time ago, and since

Yes I feel alot better about things with him now. Think we will always be connected in some way.

Perhaps part of growing up (and its about time for me) is accepting that you can't always have who you want in relationship terms because other factors have to be taken into consideration ie dcs etc

My great uncle though on his deathbed apparently said that he had always been in love with a local woman. Apparently he had been very friendly with her at certain points of his life.

Still also freaked out by the mini exFIL baby.

Can i just rant about hoe it is so unfair that people who have been only single for only 6mths or whatever have already met people.

I don't mean on here but in RL. I have been single for 3 years FGS

So not fair

and yes i am slightly drunk

There is so somthing wrong with me