where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone?[part 8]

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

oh jesus lou
it's turn your phone off time
but then why the hell should you have to?

lol Lou, lucky you. I know how things get blurred between you two.

Just come on. Really hope you're ok lou what a horrible thing to happen. I get similar feeling from my ex. Court is just awful, I know that. Very stressful - even if it's something you want.

Just seen that you had v over - that's good. You need all the support you can get at times like this. I ame EXACTLY the same, not wanting to ask for support and making out I csan manage etc.

Good news about rj having a fab time in Cairo!

I know it sounds awful but right now my (general) opinion of men is extremely low. It seems the vast majority of them are immature, selfish idiots. Not sure I'll ever trust another one again.

Oh and comfort sex alsways nice lol

NB I'm well aware the problem is likely to lie with me. Just recent experience.

sigh

lou - it sounds like you have alot of people around you for support so that is good. I know it is still hard though.

Janos - I know how you feel about thinking you might not trust anyone again, I feel like that too. I have only had two long term partners, and both of them were cheating loosers. So I think it will be a problem to trust anyone.

Thanks notoverit.

Would you believe it, I'm actually a generous and good natured person! But based on my own recent experiences I can't ever imagine even plain liking a man or ever getting anywhere near having a relationship again.

What's knocked me for six I reckon is the depth of DS's Dad's nastiness and cruelty in attempting to push me out of DS's life. It's had quite an effect on me.

It is difficult, but I really think as time goes on it gets easier. I often feel I do not want another full blown relationship again as it just complicates life, but I think if the right person comes along it changes things.

Also our past relationships might have been very painful but atleast we can learn from them and if we do ever happen to and get into a real relatioship, we will be able to stop certain warning signs.

Yes notoverit - think I'm just in a very cynical frame of mind at the moment. Not like me to be such a grump.

I am feeling like that too, my name says it all...

But I know it is hard, I read one of your earlier posts about your child staying with you. I have not got to the stage of court yet, but do feel very worried about exp having dd overnight. And I know I have got all those worries to come...

he bought me a fry up this morning too, and has said he will come to court with me

i think he wants to piss on exh's leg

lou that is the sort of friend you need!
My bf says she wants to put XP in a box and stamp on him

I can remember when I told exbf what was happening with XP (all the taking to court business). His first reaction was 'Don't involve me!' Think that says it all, really.

neither v or exex have that attitude fortunately

lets just hope i can get my solicitor in time for friday morning eh?

Good cos support from good friends is what gets you through the difficult times!

Is your sol difficult to get hold of? What do you need to speak to him/her about?

Email janet at webjam dot fsnet dot co dot uk if you want to rant

i will need to get hold of them on tues about the court date

he turned up yesterday knowing i wouldnt be able to get hold of anyone til tues and court is friday

What a complete shit.

Could you call the police on him if he does it again?

called them yesterday, fat lot of good that did

they have called me back today to follow up and givenme some numbers though which i wall look into

lou.

Not surprised it's stressed you out so much. Any way you can get a friend to come and stay for a bit?

I'll get my friend to put him in her stamping box if you like..

no not really

i feel a bit nauseous now from it all, plus absolutely drained , i just want to sleep all day

i will be ok

Yes, I know that feeling, of feeling sick with stress, worry, the drained feeling.

What sort of support have you got at the moment, apart from on here?

Your X really is a first class shit. Wish I could offer some practical help but anyhow, thinking of you.

got my friends but they arent about tonight

its ok i usually deal with these things on my own, i will be ok when i get over re running it in my head

hope you're having a better evening lou
eve another victim of bfs on our hands have we

i feel v down but not as panicky tonight, exex is texting though and v has been in touch and one of my friends who was here yesterday has popped round

am just going to hermit tonight

good to hear you have people looking out for you it makes a huge difference

yes it does

Yeah I get like that sometimes too, just wanting to hide away and keep safe. You need to look after yourself.

I find weekends are worse for down days (esp with stressful goings on) cos it 'feels' like everyone else is having a fabbo time and there's pressure for it to be 'fun'.

Gosh I'm a cheery soul tonight aren't I. Apols for being all 'captain bringdown'!