where have all the fit and interesting available men gone part 5!!

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

ok we're off!

he makes me feel funny in my pants

Hello-I have a question (I tried joining the thread a while ago, got lost, and now feel bad jumping back on with a me me me me me question, but here goes!).

Met mr fabbyriffic on Sunday-went on a snowboarding day, and he was our instructor. He was all v proper, but lots of tummy whooping sly glances at each other, held on to my hands for (quite a lot) longer than needs be, always chatted to me if we were watching others doing their turns etc. And REALLY good with kids-there was a tots ski class next to us on the (nursery slope, and they kept falling over/tripping over their ski's at the top of the lift, and he was SO good with them all. Anyway, the day ended, and (having recently read The Rules) decided I would not ask for his number, and obviously as my instructor (I don't think) he could ask for mine. So put it down to a v nice encounter. However, two probs have now arisen:

1. I need to do an improvers course before I feel confident enough to go out on my own-I feel like a need a few more tricks under my belt. It has been advised by other boarders that you try and get the same instructor-will I look like a crazy stalker? I was so exhausted by the end I made a complete idiot of myself, couldn't get on the poma lift as my legs just wouldn't have it, and am a bit embarrassed to see him again

1. I had to get up at 3.30am, was too excited to sleep the night before so had had 3.5 hours sleep, and then drive for 3.5 hours to get to the place, and put my make up on in the car and scraped my hair back, so looked pretty crumby. What if I have him again next time (and obviously have more sleep, put more effort in and do my make up properly). Will he think "she is actually really pretty", or "woah she is trying WAY too hard!"

Apparently it is v normal to ask for the same instructor, as they will remember you and what your strengths and weaknesses are (and the teaching styles vary quite substantially!) and so it is a better continuation, but 8 hours if I make an idiot of myself could be awful! And then he will either ask for my number or not, as there is no chance of him being my instructor again as that is all the lessons they do/you need.

Lou he gives me that damp pants feeling too
Hi Paddington
too right it's me,me,me you need talking up here after all and are entitled to have a nice fella lol
just go for it and ask to have him
nothing ventured
you are a yummy mummy don't forget it!

Hi Paws, do not feel guilty, new posters always welcome!
It really does depend on how much you like him, it does sound like an awful lot of effort tbh given the distance etc, but I would say wait until the weekend and see how you feel, if you feel as strongly as ever then go for it, nothing ventured nothing gained after all.
Also make the effort to look nice, men don't usually note whether you looked nicer then last time, you either just look nice or you don't in their eyes!
Also if you really want to take the jump, you could wait until the end of the lesson, have your mobile no written down on a piece of paper and just simply say "if you're not already with someone, give me a call if you ever fancy meet up for a coffee and a chat", and then walk off, after all if he doesn't contact you, then you're hardly likely to bump into him again. Or the other approach you could try is to ask him for his mobile no, in case you have any questions to ask, and see how willing he is to give it you. The later you could text him "Just wanted to say thanks once again and if you're ever in my area I would love to treat you to a coffee and cake for all your help".

hope this helps and let us know what you decide!

Ooh Holly you are getting bold
wish i wasn't half as shy as i am

Woo I love you ladies (and seriously blonde-you keep this thread going!). He is the first guy I have met in a long time where I was quite happy being me, as opposed to second guessing myself all the time. It is a long way, but it is close to dd's dad's house so it breaks up the journey when I am taking her home. Ok, will ask for him. Worst case scenario-he calls me an idiot for the Poma thing (I think I made him look pretty bad too!) and I never see him again, best case scenario-a yummy blonde man! I could ask for his number, or give him mine, and tell him that if he is ever going to Milton Keynes (another indoor "fridge" closer to me) to let me know, and then if he doesn't let me know he "just isn't that into you" as the saying goes! He he! He did seem to like me, but I really did make such an idiot of myself in the last hour and was so exhausted that I was crashing into people, falling off the lift, and falling over every time I got up on the board, and noone else was anywhere near as bad (I was the one that got everything first all the way through, so a marked difference!), so am worried he now has me down as a really bad hazard!

Paws - I'm sure he's seen worse and perhaps he found it all quite endearing , put it this way, at least he's not likely to forget you!

Paws this thread will just run i think lol
Holly's advice is spot on i think
my email ad is further up the thread so mail me if you like
and i can rummage thru frd for you too
always nice to have back up

eww.jeeze Insane_1 is on FRD
that's spoilt my bloody lunch for sure

Ha ha that is such a good way of looking at it Holly! You have a great outlook . What if FRD . Friends Reunited Direct? Is Insane_1 bad? Is it a guy? Who is insane? Am looking forward to my lesson now . Could ask him to help me with my first snowboard set up .

Friends Reunited Dating
he makes shane magowan look handsome

paws. go for it. or try and book last lesson of the day and ask him for a drink as a thank you

I have no idea who shane magowan is !

Aw this is really annoying-they only have two lessons in the next 3 months, and they are both on a Tuesday (I need the "in a day" ones as opposed to the go every week ones, as it would be logistically impossible), and I think he is away on holiday-boo! Could leave him a "thank you" note though saying I finished the improver thing and thanks for the good basics? Or ask the person I am booking with who the instructor would be for each of the two lessons and pick it that way? Is that too desperate? It is, isn't it!

Oh well, will have to go every so often and see if I spot him (will get free membership on completion and then it is much cheaper) and hope I spot him to show him my "skills".

the lead singer of the pogues lol
and good plan there paws like it

i would leave it for the lesson. and go to the free membership thing. if it's meant to be it will happen. if your already working so hard and haven't even had a date it souds like too much bother.

Eww he is ugly!! Just rung the place and they said they will put on a special lesson!!! Woo!!!!Don't know if it will be with hunk-o-rama but he is there at the weekends by the way he was talking about them/talking to the other instructors, so may bump into him at some point-hurrah!! Now need to desperately scrape non-existent money together!!

go for it paws, nothing ventured and all that

hmm not liking the suggestions for me on FRD.

I stupidly txt samename2 yesterday saying - I am giving up on you because you don't seem interested. Then txt him today to wish him Happy St Patricks Day (he is Irish). Think I need to break my own fingers. LOL right might delete him now.

Samename1 has blown it, doesn't seem to know his arse from his elbow. yu were right ASBM

other than that talking to a teacher and a dj on pof last night - neither of them really hot hot hot.

I wonder wtf I am doing on these sites sometimes - I am not bad looking so I am told, take care of myself, bit too curvy, gsoh. Only to be faced with a load of timewasters. munters, chancers and fecking weirdos.

Rant over

SCL can you mail me please?
[email protected]

know exactly where you are coming from - in fact you took the rant right out of my mouth (fingers??)

that's all

yep just mailed you from my hotmail account.

cool!
will mail you back then

your on these sites to go on a few dates. enjoy some male company with someone you find attractive.

if anything else comes of it then its a bonus!!

it's about getting back out there and having some fun and brushing up on your skills

as most of us have been off the market for so long, or suffered poor confidence due to past relationships, that we need a little ...em... practice at courting

yes I do know that and some of the time it is great fun I do agree. And if nothing else it s an ego boost because to be honest I did not expect much attention.

But some of the time it isn't so should prob step back a bit then.

yes it isn't too much to want a bit of male company once in a while is it?
i mean there's only so many episodes of 'sponge bob' i can take