Where have all the fit and interesting available men gone...Part 4!!!!

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and so it goes on...

Hi SV - whats happened with ldr nm?

i dont know if its because we did the deed - ahem, but i think i went and got all emotionally involved, like a typical woman. but i was feeling a bit down about my situation and how my love life revolves around ex looking after dd. so i basically spilled my guts out to him haha great, nice one! what a turn off. wtg me! now hes gone a bit quiet..

Hi sv, sorry to hear that, there may be a more logical reason for him going quiet?

same here supervixen. mine does too so in reality get one sat night every 2 weeks and maybe odd evening but that is done grudgingly by exH.

have to get babysitter in reality for any other times I want to do anything social/dating/workwise.

My slow burn (we were in touch for 6 months before we met) online thing seems to have fizzled out - we too got very friendly upon first meeting. And he has been v quiet since which is a real shame cos he turned my head.

And I have a tummy too!!! I am curvy yes not slim - if someone has a prob with it then its their loss.

ASBM - samename 1 (yes 1) txt me yesterday to see if we can meet up.

Maybe he did say "lets just see how it pans out", so maybe there is hope but i think i put my foot in it a bit.

how are things going with you holly? I have ben offline for like 3 days and there are a lot of posts!

Maybe he did say "lets just see how it pans out", so maybe there is hope but i think i put my foot in it a bit.

how are things going with you holly? I have ben offline for like 3 days and there are a lot of posts!

Look your entitled to have a little moan, its difficult, you know the pressure of raising dd by yourself, having to rely on a twunt- ex to look after her. It sounds like you were just making him aware of your situation i.e you can't be available at a drop of a hat because of your obligations towards dd. If he can't understand that then it better to find out now before you invested anymore emotional time with him. However if you want to test the waters with him, you could always send him a light friendly text "Hi, how are you" that sort of thing. (Big hug from Holly to SV), I'm sure it will be alright.
By the way repeat the mantra for this thread "I am a yummy mummy".

SCL I feel your pain! its a right passion killer! do you think having sex with them makes them less keen? i waited till the 3rd time we met, so it wasnt like i jumped straight in, i dont know there are so many rules, its annoying.

i just find it very shallow to dismiss a woman because of a tummy, (I would never dismiss a man because of his size) im not huge but am a curvy size 16, without sounding cocky, i work it, and find that men dont notice a bit of a tummy if youre happy in youre own skin.

thanks holly, youre right. i was indeed trying to make him aware of my situation! I think Ill drop him a friendly text tonight and see what happens

I am a yummy mummy!

A lot of men appreciate a curvy woman, and as long as you're happy within your own skin it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks!
Anyway me and fittie are texting but he's had a death in the family - a close relative so he's busy dealing with that atm. I'm texting him so he knows I'm thinking of him but have made it clear I know he has other priorities atm so it may even be a few more weeks now before I get to see him.

holly, at least its going well, im sure he appreciates you thinking of him.

I think it depends on the guy tbh - there are often stories on other threads by people who met other half and slept with them straight away.

TBH would be happy to be samename2s as fb cos of my restrictions but don't think that's going to happen either.

And yes hard not to talk abt exes with new men I agree esp if they put restrictions on you.

i slept with exh within 24 hours of meeting him and we lasted 17.5 yrs, did it with exbf first day too and it lasted 9m til he emigrated

have waited and it hasnt lasted

depends on hte person you have sex with and how they see the relationship i think

SV when did you last hear from him?
my LDR went down the pan too aft.i slept with him won't bore you with the details unless you want to know,but it did drag on for a while after.
I think that despite what alot of men say what they actually mean is different re:sex early on
I think that there is this thing where they are happy to get it but once they do they lose a bit of interest as they no longer have to put the effort into get it iyswim and they also stupidly assume that you must put out that readily for all and sundry
Stupid and annoying but that's what i have concluded from my own experience

SCL is he having a laugh?
what did you tell him?
was it two worded?

hmm......sex on the first date. cant say i've done that. done other things on first date

really depends on the fella and their views.

i'll be honest. i never go into a relationship intentionally. it always starts as me seeing someone, then we sleep together. i just go on about my life. and before you know it we're having the conversation about being exclusive.

i panic....

was already exclusive as i struggle to be involved with more than one person even at the early stages.

then i agree?? no idea why i always agree??

next time a fella has that chat i am going to clarify exactly what that entails. will not be giving up anything other than the right to sleep with other people next time.

i always end up shoved into a relationship where i feel bad for going out and having fun with my friends on my own.and made to feel guilty for not putting dp feelings/time first.

men who feel like that have huge self esteem issues and shouldn't be in relationships full stop
if i have to spend a disproportionate amount of time worrying/or being mindful of lets face it a grown man then i back off
I have enough on my plate already
the day that i ceased to worry about exbf was extremely liberating
i wont be going down that route again

i dread the words "so can i call you my girlfriend yet"

"no f* off, you get what your given or nothing at all"

tis my new mantra to go with

"i am a yummy mummy"

which yes, I AM,

Everyone that posts to this thread to day has to day they are a Yummy Mummy, those that haven't said it yet need to, because its true!
RJ - I've never slept with someone on the first date either, also told fittie I want to take things slowly so I will have to stick to that now as a woman of my word! I'm hoping to have a hug next time I see and and a bit of kissing would be nice! lol, oh well...
I wouldn't rule out sleeping with a guy on a first date, would all depend on the situation and how I am feeling at that particular point.

RJ you are a scrummy yummy mummy

Lol at Holly

holly, you are a woman. you can change your mind and do what you want on next day if you want

sv - whats todays update on LDR, has he run away completely?

RJ i think she does that already
and extremely well too

oh lord. marvel has sent another. text. i really really need to have that chat. but there's no good time for a few days. friends coming round before dc go to bed tonight.then tomorrow dropping dc off at their dads hopefully then out to play poker(have been assured its not strip poker or with money so i agreed. no idea what we will be using, but i've told i will like it ) staying over at my friends on sunday then picking up kids.

really dont want to do it with kids in background or friends. maybe sunday night.