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Let down....again!

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Upsydaisy1 · 20/02/2009 18:09

I have posted on here before. But to recap, husband left after 17 year relationship leaving me with 2 small dcs. I have picked myself up and carried on, as we all do. I decided to try internet dating and have had a couple of dates which have amounted to nothing, but that's fine.

I recently met someone on line and after three weeks of seeing him he bared his soul to me, said he had fallen for me and that his feelings were strong. I agree that we both connected in a way that reminds me of when I met my exhusband. Things appeared to be on the up. He did all the chasing and I responded, although I was cautious I started to let me guard down and let him in.

Fortunately I hadn't slept with him as he and I both agreed that it would be better to wait and our relationship should develop over time. Everything he said to me about how he felt, where he thought our relationship would lead and how excited he was about our future appeared to be very sincere. I was even going to meet his family in March at a function and prior to that had planned to call in on him mum one day when we were together. I have at no time made any demands on him and have been quite happy for him to lead the way.

Well yesterday I got a text from him, and he said he is going to call me tonight to talk about it. The text basically said that he now felt that he wasn't ready for a relationship and all that it would mean, but that he really wanted to remain friends. Well to say I was shocked after everything that he had said was an understatement and I don't really know what to make of it all.

I wonder if he has got cold feet and retreated into his cave. I am numb and felt very let down. Not sure what to say to him and felt that I had to get it all off my chest on here before he calls me.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 08/03/2009 17:37

Mutha ignore me am always getting my dates in a muddle!
a new dress sounds brilliant,and the shots too!why not! go out and enjoy yourself with the girls!
and the absolute too?well thats all positive stuff,it should be just a formality now,just a matter of getting the court date unless you just hear aft. like i did
Btw.don't know about being 'wise'!?
I've just been there i guess and know how shite it all is esp.when you can't just let it all out because of the children and how it will affect them
but that web site is def.good,it's very to the point and helped me alot
so glad tho to hear that your both feeling more positive
I am going out with him next weekend childcare arrangements allowing,will keep you posted xx

MuthaHubbard · 09/03/2009 20:47

oh dear - had a bit of a blip today and text him. we met 2 years ago today and i text 'met you 2 yrs ago today, never thought I would be as happy as I was and get my heart broken. thanks for the memories and hope you had fun too, shame we couldn't have had more. Take Care, MH x'

now I know i probably did a bad thing but at the time i felt i needed to say that and afterwards i deleted his number. have had no reply anyway.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/03/2009 20:58

aww.bless
am so sorry
you did what you felt was right
xx

MuthaHubbard · 10/03/2009 16:20

thanks asbm, think I'm a bit down anyway due to pmt. have so many good memories and it felt so right being with him that i'm finding it hard to not feel very hurt.

feel like i'm on a rollercoaster, one day I'm totally fine and the next just cry at anything.

upsy - hope things are going well for you and sorry for totally hijacking your thred!!!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 10/03/2009 16:52

oh bloody pmt it doesn't half throw you doesn't it
hope you're all raring for your girls nite out!

MuthaHubbard · 10/03/2009 17:11

obv meant thread !!

thanks asbm - usually get a little narky and soft but obviously this is taking the p!sh!!

am really looking forward to friday though thanks.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 10/03/2009 17:47

lol.
I hope you will have a large one for me

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