Such a long story. Some of the background is here on this thread please read it.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/lone_parents/642398-5-yr-old-Daughter-won-39-t-see-or-speak
I don't know what to do now. Since I last posted she has become more afraid of seeing him and has decided that she does not want to see him under any circumstances. The last straw was him gouging her ears with cotton buds and hurting her. She had only gone there for tea so there was no reason for him to do this. Before then I had done my best to persuade her to see him as I thought it may all blow over and that he would see that he needed to address these issues. But now I have finally taken heed of what my dd says and have told her if she does not want to see him then she doesn't have to. Overnight she has returned to being a carefree and worry free child.
Today I got a court order from him. He is taking me to court to get access even though he has refused to address any of my concerns and my dd's issues. I offered mediation yet he refused.
I am baffled that he had gone so long refusing a defined order yet now he has applied for one himself just when she has decided she does not want to see him.
I am shattered by this. What do I do? What happens if the court is deceived by his charms and decides she must see him. Do I make her go kicking and screaming and not trusting him not to either hurt her or worse not to bring her back (as he has threatened in the past). Will the court listen to her? She is nearly 6, I really don't want her to be put through courts.
Sorry for such a ramble but I am at a loss as to how a man can be so cruel to a child and then try to be a hard done to father. I am so afraid that this will further disrupt her and he just does not care as long as he is the one in control. It's a big game to him with winners and losers and not at all about his child.
Please help if you can.