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lets laugh, who gets maintenance and how much?

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onlywantsone · 12/02/2009 08:11

I'm laughing, really I am - my XP doesnt see my DD due to various issues but givesme a voluntary contribution towards her upbringing out of the "kindness" of his heart of

drum roll please

£5 a week

TA DA!!!!!

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glitterfairy · 12/02/2009 08:13

Is he unemployed? That is the correct amount for someone who is unemployed.

If not then I think a conversation is in order.

RealityIsMyOnlyValentine · 12/02/2009 08:19

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onlywantsone · 12/02/2009 08:38

dont know about his emplyment status - dont talk to him

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Chesiregrin · 12/02/2009 08:46

I managed to get dh's CSA maintence payment to his ex down to just £17 a week - result!

sugarpear · 12/02/2009 08:47

Does anyone have the number for the csa please?

lulabellarama · 12/02/2009 08:56

The grand total of £0
With an original lump sum payment of £0

Chesiregrin, are you genuinely boasting that you managed to reduce the amount your husband pays for his child?

sparklet · 12/02/2009 09:18

A big fat zilch. He's a lazy bum (always has been) and has a very low income, god knows how he survives (does painting & decorating when the mood takes him). Very hands-on dad though, has DD 3 nights a week. He's now having another child with his GF and she's got no money either, totally insane.

I'm OK financially but far from loaded and he seems to expect me to buy ALL her clothes and stuff. I do get the child benefit and tax credits (about £100 a month in total) but I still think this is a tad unfair - any opinions please?

VictorianSqualor · 12/02/2009 09:19

Chesiregrin stop trolling and bugger off.

I get Zilch. Nada. Nought.

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SalmonintheLiffey · 12/02/2009 09:22


My x puts £1 a week into my account. It's an old UK account I never use now that I'm in Ireland. THat one pound a month keeps the account active, which means I'm charged £2 a month bank charges.

And don't tell me to ring the bank. It's impossible from Ireland, and I don't know any of my passwords or pin codes and the free numbers aren't free from here, and etc etc etc, I've tried to sort it, honestly!

lulabellarama · 12/02/2009 09:24

Salmonintheliffey - Is he doing that on purpose?

SalmonintheLiffey · 12/02/2009 10:22

Yes he is.

At one point, last August, I wrote to him to ask him for money. We are struggling, but we do manage, just. He responded with a solicitor's letter threatening to take me to court to have the children returned to the UK.

It didn' mention money but I got the message you know. I had to go to my solicitor and spend £180 to get his advice. He advised me that unfortunately, because I did return to Ireland with the children (born in the UK) that I shouldn't rock the boat by persuing money, either legally or even just verbally.

So I left it. But I spent 180 I didn't have on a solicitor and he must have spent a similar amount on a solicitor. More money than he's ever given us.

He does come and visit them too, so it's not like he's turned his back completely. He flies over about once a month. He earns 90k a year, lovely house worth half a mil and a car worht 40k. He told my Dad that he's not giving us any money because by leaving I implicity undertook to support the children, and besides, his money is 'all tied up'.

He didn't come to see the children in January because he was skiing.

I hardly even care any more. It used to EAT ME UP INSIDE literally, the anger was so palpaple I was almost choking on it, but now I feel, he has made himself an UTTER inconsequence in our lives. Which I now realise is for the best as he was extremely controlling.

SalmonintheLiffey · 12/02/2009 10:24

Sorry, I just realised I said £1 a week, he actually gives me £1 a month!!!!

Mind you, that's a good thing, my solicitor said if we ever end up in court, the fact that he's given me £1 a month for nearly two years will NOT reflect well on him given his financial status.

fryalot · 12/02/2009 10:33

dd1's dad has somehow managed to earn below the threshold for maintenance for the last 15 years.

I get NOTHING for her and never have done.

He gave me £100 when she was tiny and said that if I didn't give his name to the CSA I could have that every month. I didn't feel much like telling the CSA that my husband wasn't the father of my child just to save him being obliged to contribute to her welfare so I admitted that he was in fact her father, conceived within wedlock and much wanted (as it happens)

That was the last I saw of him and his money!

I know for a fact that he used to earn thousands a week and managed to successfully hide it.

I don't even know if he's still alive as have had no contact with any of his family for the last ten years.


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Dropdeadfred · 12/02/2009 10:39

poor you OP,, Squonk and others.
After 5 years of not paying anything the dd's dad was finally caught by csa and made to py...not a fortune but a fair amount

cheshiregrin..are you a troll or just a bitch?

FAQinglovely · 12/02/2009 10:42

I get nothing - although should be getting about £120 a month (well actuall as of this month it's £5 as he's been sacked - under very spurious reasons which he's appealing).

However, under mutual agreement he's not currently paying me anything (it's long and complicated to explain so I'm not going to try - except to say that I'm happy with the situation as it currently is).

lou33 · 12/02/2009 10:44

not a penny

fattiemumma · 12/02/2009 10:44

my ex doesn't work.

well of course he does ut its all cash in hand construction stuff, cash in hand door work and modelling stuff that he gets paid cash for as well.

why is it they just ask what they earn. how the flying feck do they think he pays for his 42 inch plasma he bought last week, and the designer clothes and nights out and.....grrr

he's a tosspot and we don't need his money.



pig faced tiny cocked fuck bag

fattiemumma · 12/02/2009 10:46

excuse that, i seem to contract tourettes whilst talking about the shit shag saggy bollocked cunt twunt.

glitterfairy · 12/02/2009 10:50

fattiemumma ROFL!

AnarchyAuntSaysRomanceIsDead · 12/02/2009 10:55

Not a penny.

In four years, we have had about £25 - this was over three months last year when the CSA managed to get £1.67 a week out of him!

CSA are a fucking joke, ex has three kids by three women and none of them get anything. Everytime one of the CSA cases gets altered or any reason, the other two get 'put on hold' indefinitely. Every time he changes beneits, or signs off for a few weeks to avoid having to get a job, they stop all the claims without telling anyone.

wannabe10 · 12/02/2009 11:02

My ex has not paid anything in eleven years. They said they counldn't find him and yet my brother works for a tracing agency and sent me his file in ten minutes.
Its ridiculous and I was told I could take the csa to court for imcompetency. Its just more hassle though. I phone them monthly and the last state of play is that the baliffs are involved. Not holding my breath though.

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