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Valentine's day - when you KNOW you won't be getting one

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Flightattendant9 · 02/02/2009 17:07

I mean a card of course

How do you cope with it? I dread it every single year and here it comes again

I just want to stay in bed and not go out all day really. And there's no escape on MN!

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Mamazon · 02/02/2009 17:12

i reckon we should get a list compiled of all those who are upset at missing out and we can send each other one.

im not going to be getting one either. Nm doesn't do valentines. his argument makes sense....doens't mean i dont still want him to change his mind though

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Flightattendant9 · 02/02/2009 17:15

That's a nice thought

I am happy with having some virtual hand holding on the day really. Got a card from a boy in the sixth form who had briefly dated me and all my friends! He was lovely but when we all realised we had a photocopied card, we nearly lynched the poor bugger

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elmoandella · 02/02/2009 17:45

i've only ever had something for 1 valentines ever that was bought buy another fella.

everything else i've had i've either bought myself "from" my exdp. and before that i was always single at valentines

onlywantsone · 02/02/2009 18:04

Valentines really doesnt mean any thing to me - its just a crap commercial excuse to spend money.

Will getting a card on Feb 14th truly, make you enternally happy?

I know it's crap and hard, but forget about it - its just one day (I'm much happier not having a card and some cheap petrol station carnations on that day than being stuck in my dead end abusive relationship)... x

elmoandella · 02/02/2009 18:05

onlywant - doesn't stop me feeling lonely as there isn't anyone to buy that cheap card or even enjoy their company of for that day

onlywantsone · 02/02/2009 18:22

Elmoandella I thought you went on a date? How did that go?

elmoandella · 02/02/2009 18:28

he got stuck in snow on m8.rescheduled till fri. but thats on far too early legs to even mention the V day. what day of the week is it on??

onlywantsone · 02/02/2009 18:30

Valentines, is on the 14th... so that would be a... looks in diary a Saturday.

How old are your DC's?

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Flightattendant9 · 02/02/2009 18:32

I think it's a saturday.

Sorry your date got held up
Hope it is worth the wait!

Not a glimmer round here - well, not with anyone really suitable. I think it means I'm not ready for a relationship. And might never be at this rate!

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elmoandella · 02/02/2009 18:35

18months and almost 3yo.

sat too. thats mince.unless my bro has his son that day there's not much chance of me getting a baby sitter.

onlywantsone · 02/02/2009 18:44

yeah, I know the feeling - my parents are on holiday so I shant be going out with new man either. Never mind!

oldraver · 02/02/2009 18:55

I'm sorta ambivilant about Valentines Day, it woudl be hit and miss if I got one when hubby was around. Last time I got anything was the whole load of roses routine a few years ago. It was abit of a shock as he had died three days before, the poor flower man just kept apologising as he had been bringing bouguets all weekend

fuzzywuzzy · 02/02/2009 18:58

I wont be getting one, however I never did even whilst married so not a problem. On the upside this year valentines is on a Saturday and I am officially getting divorced, so friends won't be asking what I got/did for valentines. That was the worst thing imo, whilst together with ex the girls at work got beautiful bouquets of flowers, jewelery, and I stuck out obviously as the only one who never got anything... very horrible, and now thankfully over!!!

elmoandella · 02/02/2009 18:58

thats sweet raver... i'm guessing he had planned it in advance

ANTagony · 02/02/2009 19:00

Its my younger sons birthday (3 this year) so even though its just the three of us we get to make a party of it. This year its the play barn and McDonalds.

No doubt I'll crack open the wine once they're down.

I think I'd rather be alone and happy than in a resentfull or unhappy relationship. ExDH never bothered with Valentines, Birthdays or Christmas so I guess I've never got used to it.

elmoandella · 02/02/2009 19:01

fuzzy - that was me too. i never got anything.....not even card unless i reminded and badgered. so after first 2 yr i just gave up and accepted he wouldn't do it on his own accord then whats the point

PurpleOne · 04/02/2009 00:25

It'll be my birthday on the 14th.

I don't agree with Valentines Day. Overhyped, and over commercialised. I mean, why send cards, chocs and teddies to the one you love on 'that' day?
There's another 364 to chose from!

My birthday over rides the thoughts of anything else. I can't be arsed with looking out the window and seeing the florist over the road doing a roaring trade..and men walking around with huge bunches of roses. Just another reminder that I haven't had a half decent relationship / date / shag in absolutely years.

newlysinglemummy · 04/02/2009 22:07

I have always had a card for so many years. I know I will not get one this year. But I have decided I will get a take away and a big big box of chocolates and snuggle up with the real love of my life dd and have a nice evening together. (if she is in a good mood).

I'm hoping when she is older she might be considerate enough to make me a card? But we will see as she is only 18months old.

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