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Lonely over New Years aswel?

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MeNmyGirl · 31/12/2008 11:35

Hi, ok so got ovr Christmas and had a lovely time! Was lonely but overall a really nice time....but now i feel the exact same about NYE. Im used to going out every New Years Eve but staying in tonight & prob go to bed before it hits midnight!....Just feels strange,..

Does anyone else feel lonely over New Years too or is it just me

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Upsydaisy1 · 31/12/2008 11:50

Yes me too! Part of me wants to give 2008 a good kick up the backside and send it on it's way, the other part of me wants to curl up in bed and stay there. I've had a terrible year which I've just posted about anyway so you are not alone.

I think there is always an expectation to look forward to the new year and be in the party mood, which to be honest can make you feel worse.

I feel very strange today, bit of a black cloud looming. Think I will feel better when the dcs are back at school and normal life resumes.

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MeNmyGirl · 31/12/2008 11:55

yeah im the same, had a terrible year and im under that black cloud with you lol.

Longing now for school and routine to start,..which is also going to be quite weird,...dd will be starting full time hours arrghhhh!

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girlsnightout · 31/12/2008 11:57

Not just me then! Apprenhensive about what the new year will bring is all I can put it down to.

BeauticianNotMagician · 31/12/2008 12:11

This year will be my second new year on my own.Last year i cried into my takeaway.

This year has been ok.I lost my job in march though and didnt find another one until september.On the plus side i am now a stone and a half lighter than last year and hope to keep it up.I will be glad to see the back of 2008.

This year i am looking forward to night in.Went into town this morning and got myself some nice new la senza pjs and the plan is to have a takeaway then bath using all the lovely stuff i got for christmas.Then settle down with Jools Holland on the box and a bottle of baileys in my hand.

girlsnightout · 31/12/2008 12:21

BNM sounds like a good plan to me!

IllegallyBrunette · 31/12/2008 12:22

Me, I hate nye. Doesn't seem to matter what i do, come midnight I am generally in tears for no good reason.

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MeNmyGirl · 31/12/2008 12:30

Yeah i feel im going to the be the same this year,...how depressing! Atleast over Xmas, i felt lonely and down but on xmas eve we knew out lo's would be over the moon and full of smiles with their new pressies etc,...what do we get tomorrow,..start of a new year wondering whats in for us

Im so moany!

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brazenhussy · 31/12/2008 12:40

I have never really given NYE a thought before. When DH was here we usually got a takeaway and went to bed at usual time, never really gave a thought about it being the start of a new year.

This is the first one on my own and although i am over the moon to be seperated it does feel a little strange and lonely. DH is having the DC's over at his tonight so will be properly alone and feel a bit sad

2008 has been a truely horrendous year for me too (the worst one in my 39 years) - marriage broke up, going through divorce, new relationship broke down and severely disabled mum now terminally ill and refusing treatment. So will defo be staying up tonight to wave it piss off goodbye.

Am comforted by the thought that i am not alone in spirit though

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 31/12/2008 12:43

yes i have to agree with you all NYE is overrated and so much is made of having to go out and enjoy yourself.
its probably that sense of having to reflect on what this year has brought and looking ahead to what next year might bring..
Like most of you my year has been pretty mixed but i can honestly say that i've come along way and for the most part enjoying my life as a single mum with my dcs
And whatever you all may do tonite...Happy New Year..and lets hope we can meet up here next NYE with lots of positive and wonderful stories of what 2009 has brought us

brazenhussy · 31/12/2008 12:44

MeNmyGirl - we have every right to be moany - it's bloody hard work on your own and especially at this time of year.

We have to be positive about what the New Year will bring though, cosmic ordering and all that lol.

Here's to a better 2009 for all of us

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MeNmyGirl · 31/12/2008 12:48

lol yeah nice to know we'r all in the same boat! I was thinking i guess im down too as its dd's "dad" birthday today too, thats another reason we always went out,..but now hes married with another child! So kinda weird.

Id love to be seeing the new year in tonight drunk and out clubbing or something

Well,...chin up everyon and i'l be tryin to think positive thoughts!!

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elastamum · 31/12/2008 12:53

Hi All, Can I join the NYE Bah Humbug club too? 2008 has been truly awful for me too. H moved us away from our friends,I gave up my job in the move and then he left us for OW. He has gone off with the kids now to his in laws and left me on my own with the dogs in this huge house in the middle of nowhere. Have just had a little cry whilst walking the dogs. Was supposed to be going out but have been let down by my friend so will be snuggling up on the sofa with the dogs an a bottle of wine. Cant wait to see the back of 2008. Hoping 2009 will be better........

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MeNmyGirl · 31/12/2008 12:54

Ahh your more then welcome! Feel free to have a good moan!! Lets hope 2009 brings us some good times....

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MeNmyGirl · 31/12/2008 13:00

Oh and anyone up for watching a film later lol,...
3.45pm Chitty Chitty Bang Bang for little one, 7.05pm channel 2 Just like Heaven
9.00pm channel 1 Meet the Fockers

lol,...thats my evening planned!!!

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Upsydaisy1 · 31/12/2008 13:15

When my ex was here we always made christmas and new year really special times. Big family get togethers with friends aswell. Although I pulled all the stops out for the children and I enjoyed Christmas this year, something or should I say someone was missing. I feel the same way today infact, almost going through the motions.

I will be with friends tonight, though I suspect a few tears will be shed come midnight. Sadness for the life and dreams that I've lost and my children who won't have the childhood I had longed them to have. Fear for the future and relief that this bastard year will be gone forever.

I will however most certainly be raising a glass of bubbly at midnight with thanks for all that I have achieved this year and hopefully for all the things I have to look forward to next year.

Happy New Year to you all! xx

aseriouslyblondemoment · 31/12/2008 13:26

Upsydaisy what you're feeling is perfectly normal and the reason you feel it is because you're a great mum!!
ok so your children won't have the idealised childhood but at least they'll have you and i imagine that despite all you've gone thru you are probably a happier mummy to be around then the woman battling away with her ex was.
Do so hope you have a lovely time 2nite xx

elastamum · 31/12/2008 13:31

Thanks for the cameraderie! Am also hoping i will feel better in the new year. am going to spend the rest of the day sorting the house out as it is much easier to do if Im the only one here. Might at least start 2009 with a tidy house, it will get trashed again as soon as my little darlings get back

aseriouslyblondemoment · 31/12/2008 13:45

Its the cameraderie that keeps us all going elastamum!!
Happy New Year to you too!! xx

girlsnightout · 31/12/2008 13:51

To all you great mums out there, single or otherwise, I will be raising a glass to you all tonight. Happy New Year, onwards and upwards!

Meikyo · 31/12/2008 20:03

Hello, I am new here. Feeling very lonely tonight. I am happy to be separated - he left in summer so first festive season apart. My biggest problem is that my parents are dead and I have no other family. In past years always had very happy times with ex's family - they were my family too. My dd is going to with my ex tomorrow and I will be alone - doing some decorating!!! My s-i-l (ex's sister) was my best friend until we separated and although things are thawing out, we do not socialise at all now. I've shed a few tears over it tonight already. Going to watch a good movie and have a wee glass of wine to cheer myself up.

wrinklytum · 31/12/2008 20:10

Aww Meiko,if it is any consolation I plan to spend tommorow decorating too.My parents are coming up to take the dcs out.DP is in hospital so am feeling a bit bleurgh really.

Welcome to Mumsnet,there are usually plenty of us about here even on NYE,WAFFLING CRAP having lively discussions

BeauticianNotMagician · 31/12/2008 20:49

Happy New Year to Everyone.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

solidgoldsoddingjanuaryagain · 03/01/2009 13:36

I have just found out that quite a few of my friends obviously had some sort of party or get-together on NYE and didn't invite me. Thing is, I had posted a couple of times on our club forum saying, Anyone know of anything good/interesting happening on NYE? And no one said anything. THis does sting a bit as I cannot think of anything I have done to annoy anyone - and if they thought that I couldn't wouldn't have childcare they could still have invited me .
I think I will try to find out what they were doing, because if it was everyone-up-to-sheffield again then I will let them off (as I have been invited along on previous NYs and always said no cos of childcare/distance).

IllegallyBrunette · 03/01/2009 13:39

Samthing happened to me solidgold. My 'friend' rang me at just gone midnight to wish me happy new year with her party in full swing in the background. Infact I could hear her party from my house but hadn't realised it was her at the time.

She claims she thought I was spending new year with my mum which is utter rubbish as she knows my mum always works nye.

I was absolutly gutted and still can't quite rationalise why she left me out, but i am determined to distance myself from her from now on and try and make new friends.

solidgoldsoddingjanuaryagain · 03/01/2009 14:30

I did actually have a perfectly nice NYE wandering round town and discovering an excellent music pub to hang out in - but I still feel a bit basically uneasy about having been blatantly left out of a party and I think I will have to find out what they were up to and why I wasn't asked (or at least, if I was the only one who wasn't asked. There are benign possibilities ie a couples-only thing. Well I think couples-only things are utterly naff myself, but that would make it not a personal pop at me; several of our club are single people and if they weren't invited either then I'll know...)