Please help! Can the father legally force me to put his name on the birth cert?

[loooouise]

Can anybody shed some light on this for me please? I'm 14 weeks pregnant and it's stressing me out.
I hear that fathers who are named on the birth cert now have equal rights, which is worrying me as he's proving unreliable.
And if he isn't on the birth cert, do I lose all hope of financial support?
Thanks.

Oh and he is not yet on the birth certificate, have to wait for him to come to this country before that can happen!

Korma I was politely trying to point out that although you said you were trying not to 'sound like a bitch' or trying 'not to be horrible'...well sorry you failed. Your comments were uncalled for, life isnt so simple as we all live happy ever after

If I wasn't actually in a relationship with someone, I'd think long and hard before asking them to come along to the registrar to have their name down. If he cares enough about the child, he can apply to have his name added or apply for PR. If he's not responsible, or not interested, then at least he can't muck you around and start interfering in decisions just for the sake of it.

I cant see where the OP asked to be judged , there seems to be a new troll in the house who is posting on a few threads in this section.

It doesnt say father unknown on a birth certificate it is left blank if it is any good to you OP.

In some ways, getting PG by someone you are not in a romantic relatinship with actually gets you off to a better start than having children with a partner who already treats you like shit. You can have an amicable co-parenting relationship without all the aggravations of sexual jealousy and wounded feelings, and there's no traumatic break-up to go through. Also, as you will have been living separately from the beginning, there will be no distress for the DC that Mummy/Daddy leaves the family home - because it will always have been a done deal that the parents do not live in the same house.

I totally agree with edam
It's early days here anyway. See how things go. When the time comes (you have up to six weeks after birth?)you will have a much clearer picture of his involvement. And if he doesn't come with you to register, and yet thing change and you both want him on there there's a form you can ask for that he can fill in and be added.
Fwiw my ex is not on dd's cert, mainly because he could not make any of the dates to register, we could not agree on a name, things were pretty hostile. But we are now good co-parents, and you reminded me I must get him to fill in the form!

Thanks Stick, you rock! I kinda think this too, I would feel no sexual jealousy whatsoever towards any of his future partners, and as we've never been in love, we can't fall out of love.

Muffins well done you for making your situation work so well. It sounds like your holiday romance guy actually turned out to be decent. Total respect!

Vinegar, your story is also inspiring. If there's one thing I've learnt during my 32 years, it's that life rarely works out as planned. So I'm going to stop stressing about all this and concentrate on a fab pregnancy .

Thanks again.

I think she might mean that nut who keeps posting about an 'unplanned PG' under various aliases with a story that doesn't quite add up (in a way that suggests some journo trying find a way to score points about feckless slappers and access to abortion). NOT you, loooouise.

Hi..can the law force me to give my girls the fathers name and add him on their birth certificate if we haven’t lived together and we broke up when I was 3 months pregnant but he assisted the birth? Thanks