Anyone fancy a chat about dating sites?

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I have been on two for a while but only just got chatting with people really and I find it so stressful! Its fun but I am terrified of being asked on a date because its been so long. Also have totally lost it (if I ever had it) with talking to potential dates. I really enjoy my life taking DD to groups, seeing friends and their kids, takng DD out with my parents etc etc but I realsie it must sound really dull to men and not much to keep the conversation going beyond the initial bit. Argh help!

i now just wait for them to come to me, and if i fancy them then fine.

prob why i am stil waiting tho,

now where did that 16 yr old go

hey lou i am

MincePirate apart from im the only ones who get in touch with me seem to be a bit odd! Or they wink then I wink back then nothing. It can be fast oving thogh I suppose and if they are chatting to someone else when they see my wink I suppose they don't respond. Ah well soeday my prince will come honestly though until recently I haven't wanted any involvement at all with men so I don't kow what my problem is!

tell us more lou details we need details lol

he is 29, a photographer and keeps getting told he looks like sean slater from eastenders

kids get on with him and vice versa, he is a quiet laid back person and it's all drama free, which is a nice change

id o hope i havent jinxed it

he hasnt actually moved in, but he has been here for a few days, then he goes tomorrow before coming back on saturday for a few more days

sounds great lou - hope it goes well.

Lou33, when she said more details, she meant about your 'misery' tactics

I am intrigued. I am here becasue my bestfriend uses internet dating sites. and all the men are very strange, or emotionally retrded, or disappear off the face of the earth, after showing such promise.
I just don't understand it. and don't know what to say to her.
Most of her e-mails and msn chats etc seem to be guys who are just after one thing.
I keep saying to her, that she needs to find an internet site, where they are a bit more serious, i.e you have to be looking for a serious relationship, in order to sign up.
I say this, but I don't actually know if @I am looking for a serious relationship sites actually exist.
Do they ?

hi u2bt, i have same "prob" as you but have now been asked out, he is only down here for the week so it's a THIS WEEK decision. he lives up othere nd of country too ...

thanks

lol @ misery techniques

he has gone now, but is coming back on saturday for a few days

there are loads of guys (and women) on dating sites for only sex, but there are some who want more, it's just a case of ekeing them out

what happened to the James Bond one who met you in supermarket Lou? this one sounds very nice

oh he went off on some army thingy and i couldnt be bothered to make the effort

in fact i had sworn off all men, and he kinda sneaked in cos he was so different from all the others

this one still comes to the supermarket with me though

Oh Lou he sounds lovely! mrsmortonharket well done getting a date its more than I've managed! Its quite harsh isnt it when they suddenly stop with the emails then you can see they are on the site so its obvious they are talking to someone else! I've emailed someone today so maybe we will do better. Not got high hopes really just need cheering up!

it is annoying and a little hurtful i think when they talk to you and then suddenly stop. i think imho the best way to deal with it is to just ignore them, and try and rise above it,. i know it is easier said than doen tho(((((((((((()))))))))

yes i do have a date, have the phone number to text him and arraneg it now

I am going through a major can't be arsed phase again at the mo tbh.

I think if it is right then it should be easy, and it isn't it is all too hard, so I give up.

It does nothing but damage my already battered confidence tbh.

ooh good luck mrsmortonmarket, I was getting so anxious in advance of this bloke asking me out, can't win with me!

IB I feel similar, I think this one probably expected me to ask him to meet maybe but I am not confident enough just yet so when it happens it will be a big deal.

I had a some dates with a guy from a dating site and instantly liked him. That was a few weeks ago, he's also at the other end of the country now. We've been in constant touch since and will see each other again when work permits etc.

I sent him an overly loving text last night, after a night out!. Was a bit worried I'd blown it but he responded very favourably.

thats good christmas eve. I think I need to expect less then anything that happens is a bonus. I really didnt think I would care, esp if hadn't even met the man but its sort of knocked my confidence as I'm wondering if it will ever work out for me and seeing the problems! Drama queen me!

Take it with a pinch of salt is a good way to go forward. He never met you so don't take it personally. I've had guys cut off contact before. It doesn't bother me at all.

I once went on a pay site for a month so made the effort to meet up with a few guys. One of them didn't ever get back in touch! I remember taking that personally.

Will be interesting to see how people get on. Keep posting everyone loves a dating story.

Even though me and my new friend have admitted that we've developed feelings for one another. I am aware that he may still be dating. Just the way it goes. I'm not, he was the first one I agreed to meet after being on there a year!

This is a pay site so I hope I have met someone by feb when it runs out! Although the idea of adding eachother to facebook is good if I'm careful about who because it leaves options open for after. Probaby exactly what he thought!

he does sound lovely, but now of course i have mentioned him i have probably jinxed it all , and next weekend i will be single again

am about to catch up with this.. got cup of tea ready..

are you at home?

I love these sorts of threads.

me no, at work unfortunately

doen nowt today

just daydreamed. muppet.