How do you work childsharing?

[LissyD]

So it looks like me and my boyfriend will be splitting up. We have a 19 month old daughter who we would like to share access to equally. We both work various shifts and study, so what would be the best way to go about it? One week each, or half of each week?

Hi

I'm new here but wanted to reply to your thread. I really think it depends on you both as a couple really and what works for you. I've just split with my husband, we were together for 10 years. I have in mind that he'll have them every other weekend and the odd thursday so I can have my girlie nights out. That will work well for me and I can't see him having a problem with that because he is a lazy git when it comes to the girls. If you can come to an agreement which works well for the pair of you then it doesnt matter what other peeps do just do what suits you two.

I'm sorry you are splitting up.

I and my ex share 50:50. We both work full time. We have half of each week, I have them Mon, Tues overnight, he has Wed, Thurs overnight - then we take turns to have Fri, Sat and Sun overnight every other weekend.

Mine are both at school, and this arrangement really helps - for instance, cooking is on Tues - so I always know that I have to sort this out, and everyone knows what they are doing on a particular day.

I think it is the best arrangement for the sake of consistency, I'm not sure my girls would entirely agree as they don't like the shuttling around (and I would like them full time obviously). My ex and I live quite close to each other, which helps as well, and you need to consider this.