You know when people tell you that they can't understand why you are still single........

[IllegallyBrunette]

do you believe them or think that they are just saying it to be nice ??

I think thet are being nice!

Yeah, thats what I thought.

i believe it, because lets face it we are obviously gorgeous

no i think a lot of the time they really mean it

yey, maybe they mean it - but they stil wont go out with you!

hmmm... well, i like to thing they mean it in a jealous, "she gets to have the whole of the bed to herself, doesnt spend half the morning picking up socks and the evening wondering why she ended up with a man with hairy ears" type of way...

you know in a "i cant believe she won the lottery" type of thing.

ha! thats it!

I think it is just something to say to make me feel better tbh. Though I wish they would not bother saying it at all, which sounds very mean, but I don't see the point.

it depends who they are, how well i know them, and how they say it

No, no-one ever tells me that...

hows "fishing" going? - didb't lou and IB sign up a few weeks ago when iu got busted by my ex?!

I feel like answering 'well obviously, i am still single because there is something wrong with me' LOL.

always good to have a come back! I like the one Bridgt Jones uses about having scales over her body when a single girl takes their clothes off!

what do you mean ipod?

i usually say its because i am fussy and noone is worth the effort

Or how about 'who needs to be owned by someone else anyway?'

Or is that just me?

plenty of fish?

no-one says it to me either...

Just to be nice Im afraid.

Been fishing 3 times now, and all they wanna do is play.

POF is wank for a single mum. Its true. They just play.#

Just out for a fuck IMVHO

I've only had it said once in the last five years. It was a Polish builder a few weeks ago. I think he was trying to be charming/get into my pants.

I don't get on with the pof site tbh, well any dating sites actually.

I only ever get messages from blokes old enough to be my grandad or weirdos.

Feeling majorly down about the whole thing again tbh really.

I don't think people are saying it to just be nice, maybe some women or men can't understand why someone is single, maybe they don't understand that some choose to not date for some reason or other or some people just havn't found the one that they gel with.

I say it to my friend who's gorgeous and been single for 13 years or something. Only when she is saying she would like to meet someone because if she was happy to be alone then I would respect and understand that.

I genuinely mean it when I say it. Loads of ugly horrible people find love every day .

I think she scares people off by her gorgeousness and she is fussy and the longer you are single the harder it gets I think.
I was a single mum on my own for 3 years but I was chasing the whole time

So I suspect that when people are single for a long time it is their choice more often than not (and a perfectly wise one!).

I think the reality is, there are far more good women than good men. I don't mean that in some bitter, warped, man hating way - there are millions of wonderful men and I even know a handful. BUT - the good ones tend to get married and stay married.

Again, of course there are exceptions, for lots of reasons (and of course there are many appalling women about) - but IME the average divorced or single man around my age is divorced or single for bloody good reasons. And if they just happen not to be freaks or overgrown teenagers, then there are a million younger childless women out there far more likely to flatter their egos than a slightly shopsoiled old feminist with two children and far more important things to worry about will.

But I don't rant say all that, I just agree that it's a mystery to me too.