You know when people tell you that they can't understand why you are still single........

[IllegallyBrunette]

do you believe them or think that they are just saying it to be nice ??

lol!

Yep - know exactly what you mean...lots of my female friends have told me my ex is mad to have done what she did - I was a lovesick, romantic idiot who support her in her aim to be a full-time mum while I provided for her and my son...what an idiot I was!

I've been on a few dates, but met anyone I really want to be with (well, maybe one but she wasn't interested ).

To be honest, what I really want to do is to meet someone else, marry, have kids (and be there to watch them grow up as opposed to what's happening where my son is concerned ), do the devoted husband and dad thing and get on my life. Not sure if that is going to happen though!

Maybe I need to drink, gamble, take drugs and screw around because my being the nice guy all my life hasn't worked!

LOSTDAD DON'T YOU DARE !!!

there are still women who would love to be able to meet a nice. decent, genuine bloke - i would like to think that i might get married one day, have more kids and know that i have the support there as well, it's not too much to ask is it?

LD:try to make your life OK without having a partner. Or you will attract nothing but predators (who will spend your money and sleep with your mates or something) just as single mums who are desperate for a partner end up with appalling cocklodgers who sponge off them and mistreat the children and basically sit on the sofa all day expecting to be fed and flattered in return for the occasional shag and the chance to say My Partner...

Yeah, sounds hard but you have to be happy with yourself before you can have a solid relationship.

I can't talk though, still single a year and a half after my wife left

Yes I think they are just trying to fix your life for you. They have a subconscious 'template' of what we need to be happy. Man+woman=Normal. Any deviation from this norm is met with

Often people tell me I will meet somebody else soon, and I know they mean well. They want to cheer me up. They think that that above all else will cheer me up. If only they knew, I would get more comfort from assurances about my children's education, where we will be living in a few years, whether or not I will ever be able to earn enough to pay for everything we need!!!

Man Shman oy vey.

There's the sex (or lack of it, yes), but as much as anything else I miss the companionship.

I enjoy some of the things about being single though. I like driving my own life forward and making my own choices. As my X is not involved with the kids it also means I make all the decisions about them as well. There are therefore no rules unless I say so.

I know having had the odd relationship since that I hate it when men say shouldn't you sort out that lightbulb or do you want me to fix your doorbell? I guess I am just too independent!

gf!!!

i feel much more free since i kicked twit out, he was so controlling that looking back on it, i wonder why i didn't ask him to leave much sooner

oh gf i am the same! I cant bear it