about to move out with my little one...positive advice please??

[salo]

am about to move out with my 3 yr old after lots of unhappy times. could really do with some positive stories at the moment!

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hi salo.

all I can say is that it will be hard to begin with - but easier at the same time. You're no longer having to deal with a relationship that's gone wrong and you can focus on yourself and your child after many unhappy times.

I still remember the peace I felt when I could finally lie on the sofa at the end of the day with a good book and no nightmare dh around!

Well done for having the courage to take a difficult and painfull step in orderto create a better life for you both.

I left my ex when Ds was 4 and DD was 10 weeks.

It was hard. I struggled. But every day got easier and easier until now...i can't imagine having to live with a smelly boy ever again

thanks guys.that's just what i need to hear at the moment. its good to hear you're not the only one...

Good luck. I hope that the moving goes ok. I am sure there will be tough times, but there will be happy times. I feel like me again, I had been so unhappy I hadn't realised that I stopped feeling like myself.

When DD and I first moved out, it felt so much easier, all the stress of living in a bad/unhappy relationship was lifted and I was preoccupied with sorting the house out etc. It did get tougher a couple of months in, not having someone to share the little things with, I guess, and the weight of responsibility of everything on your shoulders, but you do get over it/used to it, and bringing up your child in a good environment, doing it yourself and having that incredibly close bond makes it so worthwhile. In my case, every time I felt weak, I thought of xp telling me I'd never cope on my own and would be calling him begging for his help, he even once told me I'd probably kill myself ! Five months down the line and DD and I are fine, I still have a few bad days, but I know they'll pass, and I had more bad days while living with xp tbh. I would never go back and my DD is the happiest baby. You'll be fine and so will your LO. In a few months time you'll be feeling really proud of everything you've achieved, on your terms. Good luck.