alone and lonely

[pringle]

ive been alone with my son whos 3 next month since i was 4months pregnant i had to leave my partner of 2yrs as he was physically and mentally abusing me i was so scared when i found out i was pregnant my ex's reaction was to lock me in a room and book me in for an abortion now the onlyperson i wanted to protect was mt unborn child a friend helped me escape with just the clothes on my back i face many questions like the one i dread the most why does daady not live with us i love my son to bits and ho is doted on by a very loving and supporting family but for me i just feel i want to be loved to but see my role as just a mom dad friend nurse ect i get lonely but only behind closed doors.

poor you, pringle. hope you feel better this night.

that's crap - I can't offer any advice as I haven't been in your position.

at least you have your family and a ds who loves unconditionally. it doesn't make up for adult company I know but some people don't even have that.

I hope you find some good friends soom pringle.

Pringle you were very very very brave to get out of that situation. You sound like a very caring, selfless and loving mum who really does put her child first.

You are you too though and it sounds a bit like you have focused so very much on the safe and secure upbringing of your son that perhap syou have neglected you a little in terms of you as a person not just mum and the many roles that entails.

You say ds is doted on by a very loving family.. is there any chance of them doting on him whilst you go out and have a little fun

Regarding 'the question' keep it simple till he is older. Keep re-enforcing what a special and wonderful little boy he is to you and how very much you love him. It sounds like you are doing a wonderful job.

xxx

pringle, you have found mumsnet. You will never be alone again.

ive wondered about that question too pringle...its seems there isnt an easy answer. but since my partner left me at 3 months pg (hoping i would abort) ive moaned, wailed and cried on here and been supported all the way. i get lonely, very much so. baby is one now and i still havent found anyone special but im always glad of the chance to complain on mn! ive made a few friends here, its a good place to come. (this is of course assuming you are new as i havent seen you around before) hope you feel a bit better soon, feel free to tell us anything you want xx

I think being a mum can be an isolating experience whether you're single or not. But with being on your own it can become really magnified.

Do you have the chance to get out on your own? Is there something you could do for you? I do OU courses and try to still do some me things (things which I used to do pre-children) once in a while. Phases pass. Sometimes it can seem unbearable, other times it is the most wonderful thing in the world, at least that's the way it seems for me.

remember though, you're not alone. There will always be people here who have the time to listen, whether you need advice or just a friendly ear. If you want to talk offlist, email me via CAT