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so it's nearly the weekend and i have heard NOTHING from my fancy!

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piratecat · 17/07/2008 18:44

not that he said he would contact me by now. I just thought, hey weekend, thats a good time to go for coffee, isn't it?

Am i being a wally, in thinking he might have meant it?

we chatted loads last friday at the school thing. I said that he sounded pretty content bieng single at, to which he replied 'oh no i still want to go out sometime'

when sometime tho, arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

thats twice he has metnioned going out, once in the text before we got chatting, and once when put on the spot, well once when fed the line i had to feed.

oh god, i hate men. (blubs) i wannnnnaaaaa date.

he seems like a good bloke, all the kids love him, those i know who know him say he's shy.

yet he has said he isn't sure about getting into anything so soon after his breakup. But if he really was interested he would , wouldn't he. I mean i could have half a dozen waitng for a date ala pirate, for all he knows.

oh, just the thought of antoher boring night in this weekend, just makes me miserable.

thanks.

just had to vent.

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davidtennantsmistress · 17/07/2008 18:49

is this the teacher?

take charge, text/ring him n say hiya just wondered if you're free tomorrow do you fancy meeting for a quick coffee?

keeps it light then.

OverMyDeadBody · 17/07/2008 18:54

vent away.

Don't text him or contact him though. If he said he wasn't sure about getting into anything so soon then he means it.

It is shitty and horrible though, being in your position, I've been there many times, just don't hold out hope that he will suddenly want anything. Even if he likes you, if his head's not in the right place, he's not going to persue it is he?

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piratecat · 17/07/2008 19:01

yes the teacher.

my pride won't let me text/contact. i think i did enough with the leting him know i liked him. ie the mad dash to deposit note into his palm!

he was oggling me so much last friday, it was obscene.

but let me say this.

what would you think if on eof the things he said was' oh i am a bit boring really i am only into (says hobbie)' to which i am quite impressed as i am quite a lazy cow. washe tryingto put me off, or does he have low self esteem right now, his relationship that ended was ten yrs. alot of time.

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davidtennantsmistress · 17/07/2008 19:03

prob a bit of low self esteem I would have thought - maybe thou in an odd way it was his way of saying don't wait around for me?

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piratecat · 17/07/2008 19:06

yes i thought so too. i think he is in a place where he is enjoying freedom, looking after no!, but still happy that someone found him attractive.

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piratecat · 17/07/2008 19:07

no 1 i meant.

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prettyfly1 · 17/07/2008 20:04

hi pc. can i put a slight dampener on things. let him take it as his pace lovey - he hasnt long been seperated has he? you dont want to be a rebound missy. maybe send a text but dont throw yourself into anything. jsut be a bit careful wont you!

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piratecat · 17/07/2008 22:32

I will prettyfly, i will. It was all very intense last week, well for me anyhow!!

what will be will be, and no i don't want to be a rebound, and to give him credit, I guess he is being sensible.

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allgonebellyup · 18/07/2008 07:37

now i remember why i hate men and hate dating!
it makes you feel sick, all that waiting around and disappointment. One minute they are so keen and cant keep their eyes off you. The next, nothing.

I myself cannot be done with it.
Good luck with him!

Buda · 18/07/2008 08:05

I think you will just have to wait. Be nice and smiley and friendly but not overly so next time you see him. Mention nothing about seeing him socially and see what happens.

If he has recently split he maybe feeling fragile, enjoying being single, hoping to get back with ex - or he may not know himself yet.

Tinkerbel6 · 18/07/2008 11:41

piratecat if you have made it known that you like him then leave the ball in his court, if he doesn't contact you at all over the weekend then keep it casual, don't wait around for him though

prettyfly1 · 18/07/2008 15:59

all gone - i am so glad you said that. everyone else is like ""ooooh" the first stage of a relationship. I HATE it. all the waiting, uncertainty. bleurgh. not for me!!!

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piratecat · 19/07/2008 11:40

well i hate it too now!!!

I have prob fancied two people inthe past 3 yrs (hhim included).

I knew i woud put myslef on the line by approaching him, and i am glad i did it.

I just get very pissed off when a supposedly pillar of the community, good bloke, yada yada, and lets face it a grown up, had prob lied about wanting to go out.

just pointless, and all that.

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piratecat · 21/07/2008 16:32

have to poss see him later at another function. Part of me is angry, and part of me is trying to rise above it.

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fawkeoff · 21/07/2008 17:03

dont be angry PC its a bloke thing..........im dealing with someone who was very interested last week....and has been very cool towards me since friday......i am not even dealing with it....im not making his head any bigger than it is already...upwards and onwards for me, he keeps MSNing me....then leaves me ages inbetween replies....just tell him im goin...then asks me not to!!!!!
he asked could hecome over tonight last night.........now nothing......so its over before it begun for me............bugger him PC act like you dont give a shit

prettyfly1 · 21/07/2008 18:22

bollobvks to em mate - onwards and upwards

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piratecat · 21/07/2008 19:30

yeah, i agree. I know that I'll get thru this, i know there wasn't much to warrant that statement there, yet I guess I was just really hoping it would come to something.

Made me realise how maybe i could really love another person, and have a relationship again. It was scary, and exciting.

I guess I am cross becuase i have had to deal with shit 4 three yrs from ex, what i mean is, that feelignthat you want to say something, if soemone has pissed youoff, but then onthe other hand u don't want them to know you even care.

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fawkeoff · 21/07/2008 19:36

i know exactly wot ur saying........im struggling not to text mine myself right now LOL.....dont want to give him the satisfaction of it.....or to think im stalking him!!!! he is obviously not as interested as i thought so im not wasting the text

just be as casual as possible, i know its easier said than done but really....his loss sweetie x

nkf · 21/07/2008 19:40

You know, I don't think you should be spending a second thinking about a man who hasn't phoned.

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piratecat · 21/07/2008 19:45

and i would say the same to anyone else. Yet when you've been kicked down that many times, just another little dent to the confidence can really hurt.

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nkf · 21/07/2008 19:58

I know. I'm sorry. But that's why I think you shouldn't dwell on it. If it doesn't make you feel better and happier then stuff it out of your mind.

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piratecat · 21/07/2008 20:02

i will do. I guess my hurt runs deeper than this.

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fawkeoff · 21/07/2008 21:54

(((((((HUG))))))))))

As women we build ourselves up for the fall everytime.......we promise ourselves that we wont read into things....it is just gonna be casual.......then before we know it we are waiting for them to text/call/msn.....we do the things we swear we wont, and you know what PC we will do it again im sorry to admit

do not let this get to you sweetie its not worth it.......you put yourself out there which took guts, and the feeling of rejection does go deep....but i will say again HIS LOSS....you need to look even more beautiful when you see him......and dont let him think for 1 second you give a flying fuck

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piratecat · 22/07/2008 09:33

ah fawkeoff you are a wise woman.

I am concentrating on the holidays now. I am going to organise a few sleepovers, so that I can have a break. One mum has offered to have dd, which is great.

I need to go out and widen my horizons, a bit difficult as I live in the sticks, but I want to have a good summer.

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piratecat · 23/07/2008 08:33

well, i was angered into a moment, by the fact he quite obviously looked the other way yesterday.

so I sent him a text to say he had been unfair not to let me know he'd changed his mind about HIS suggestion.

I was torn between ignoring him and leaving this, but I do not like being messed around, and if he had any balls, he should have been upfront.

the end!!!

i feel better now!!

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