Feel so resentful

[SpikyPineapples]

Does anyone else find themselves feeling so resentful that their kids dad doesnt have them?

He isn’t in contact anymore but even when he was he wouldn’t take them or have them overnight, I feel really resentful. I feel like I would be a much happier parent if I just got some days to myself, it’s just so full on otherwise none stop and most days I barely sit down. Theres just so much to do and I feel like there isn’t enough time in the day to do it all. It really Ps me off he gets to swan off as if they don’t exist and im suppose to feel lucky about it (yes ive actually had that said to me)

I don't know, I felt resentful when we were still together, and he did nothing (with the kids, in the house, to contribute financially etc). Now he doesn't see them, I just think it's his loss. He's missed out on so much of their lives, and I can't imagine people have a very high opinion of him. Occasionally yes I feel resentful that he has an amazing social life and found someone else and got married pretty quick while I've barely had an evening off so dating is impossible.

But its got better over time, just think how lucky we are to see so much of our kids, get to make all the decisions and not have to put up with a useless man x

See I get that but wasnt the case here, my ex wasnt useless, he ended it with me 😳 I would need to split myself in two to be able to do all the things that need doing in a day

its so so hard but try not to feel resentment which helps no one. It will get easier with time when they’re are school for example and you will get more time to yourself. It is his loss and he will never have the moments you get (albeit exhausting moments and endless tidying and cleaning and food prep and god knows all the rest of it!!)

they are at school. it’s definitely not easier. i always hear people say that. not true for me

not sure how them being at school makes it easier if like myself you work full time

I’m resentful. My ex would have ds more but he’s a danger to him so I have him 100% now. I resent he won’t stop drinking in order to have a relationship with his son . I resent that I have no ‘village’ . I resent that the relationship I had after my ex when we still had 50:50 was so promising and dangled the life id always wanted in front of my face but inevitably fell apart as he wasn’t who he claimed to be .

i thought I’d miss nights out with friends but what I miss most is just being able to clean the house properly or just sit and do a hobby for a few hours

yeah i never get the “easier when they are at school” no it isn’t!