Sleeping on the sofa at 12 weeks pregnant 😞

[TiredButTryin5x]

just needed to vent a bit sorry xx

i’m 12 weeks pregnant now n still sleeping on the sofa every night. got 4 boys in a tiny flat n no room left at all. oldest has box room, two middle ones share, little one still in with me (or meant to be). but he kicks all night n i just end up on sofa again. my back’s gone n i’m not even that far along yet 😩

i asked the council for help but they said i’m “adequately housed” cos we got a roof over our heads. but it don’t feel like that. i’m exhausted all the time. boyfriend don’t stay over n hasn’t offered to help with housing stuff. just feel like no one sees how hard this is.

i’m doing my best but it’s not enough. just want somewhere we all got a bed 😢

She meant where to put it is how I read it.

Exactly what I thought.

Time to take some responsibility @TiredButTryin5x

No chance of that.

Consequences of your choices OP. Just get yourself a bed or sofa bed for the living room. You're not going to get a bigger house any time soon so might as well make yourself comfortable. You wont be able to share a room with the kids when you've got a newborn anyway, so may as well get used to sleeping in the living room. Upside is I can't imagine you'll have the time or space to make #6...

I don't think there is a kind way to say it...but you need to stop being selfish and close your legs!

In the meantime get bunk beds and as PP said speak to your Midwife about Sterilisation after the 5th.

And you need to stop blaming others: the council that doesn't give you a better house, the school that didn't tell you what your 15 year old needs to do next. 😔

This is from your other thread:
i didn’t know about child benefit stopping if he’s not in anything – no one told me that.
I really hope this type of posts are made up just to annoy us, cause it's not fair on the kids.

Exactly this

You said "other dads", how many different dads are there?

Funnily enough I don’t agree with her choices but I’m not going to join the hundreds of posters being twats to her.

My main point was all the pro abortionists tripping over themselves to tell a woman who has said she won’t terminate to terminate! Yet when you ask why it’s ok for a woman to have an abortion they’ll tell you it’s about giving women choices! You couldn’t make up the double standards on this post alone.

Leave her alone now. If you can’t help her she has plenty of posts telling her how awful she is without some other sanctimonious nitwit chipping in.

Neither does she have to abort her baby to please the likes of you.

But adults should be responsible in knowing how many children they can adequately house. OP post screams entitlement. Shes not even doing the right thing by her kids and putting them first- she putting her needs above theirs.
What sort of mother does she think she is? Unbelievable. I feel sorry for the kids

It's about putting her first FOUR kids first!!!

Having five kids you can't feed or house without someone else paying for it is breathtakingly entitled.

I doubt it, given that she refers to multiple “dads” (at least three for the five children by my reckoning). There is absolutely nothing in any of her threads to suggest she was settled in a nice four bed with a Labrador when she had the first four and then her husband died and plunged her into poverty.

But your child will have all your time, support and resources. I'm sure your child will do very well in the future ❤

Do you get your morning kicks from being nasty to pregnant woman? What a ludicrous accusation.
Makes you wonder what your children will turn out like with such a judgemental mother.

You were aware you hadn’t taken your pill but still had sex anyway. It’s not that accidental to me. It’s only 13 weeks and you still have options.

Get a cheap single bed with a mattress and put it anywhere you can. If thats in another bedroom, then put youngest in that. If it has to be in living room, then you use that as your bed, even if you have to use it instead of a settee during the day

You can't sleep on a settee as its wrecking your back and there is a massive waiting list for larger housing...you are safely housed with your children so need to make the best of it until you and your boyfriend can afford to move to a more suitable place for your family

You obviously get yours from being nasty to me. My kids are fine, thanks, and are being brought up to take responsibility for their choices unlike the OP. As you can see, plenty of others on here agree with me.

I remember your other posts where you got your arse handed to you on a plate, yet you have come back for more. 🥴

You won’t get much sympathy on here. Don’t have multiple children that you can’t even adequately house, concentrate on the ones you’ve got.

Yeah it’s posts like this that really piss me off. I’d assume given that this is your fifth? You know how babies are made? I have one boy. We both work, we own our house and he gets what he needs. I couldn’t bear having another in case we couldn’t provide! Plus I value my sleep. Why do you keep having kids in a tiny flat you haven’t paid for? What kind of life is that for them?! It’s clearly no fun for you!

This is what’s wrong with the world.

Sensible people have 1 or 2 as it’s what they can afford. Then their taxes go to top up others lifestyle.

They ask all the time about having a sibling and it breaks my heart. But we just can’t pay the nursery fees again. I have friends with 2 paying 3k a month in fees even with the ‘free’ hours because fees have gone up so much.
and then there are others who clearly can’t parent because they didn’t even know they had to apply to college so they didn’t have time to investigate their child’s education but they had time to get pregnant…. Again?? And that’s what my taxes are paying for? Seriously? Yes, I know I am being judgemental but surely no one is beyond judgement and I feel for all of the children involved.

Have you had a 12 week scan? I wouldn’t want to abort my baby after seeing one of those.

OP your baby won’t have a room to go in. You are on the sofa, where’s baby going to go? You are already having problems with your existing DCs. Think about what kind of life this new baby will have. What life do you want for your children? What can you do to change things for them and yourself? You say you work part time as a cleaner, can you go full time and start saving up for a deposit on a private rental that’s big enough for you all? Could you study for a higher paying career in the evenings as part of a longer term plan?