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juneybean · 25/04/2008 22:08

I see alot of threads in here referring to exes etc but I am wondering if there are any mummies here who have gotten pregnant on their own??

I don't have a partner (don't really care for one either) but would love kids!

I'd like to hear from like-minded peoples :P

xx

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colacubes · 26/04/2008 19:38

Juney, I gave you an honest account of having a child alone at 21, basically what you are considering now, you didnt like it, you were curt about advice given, well if you dont want the reality of a child alone at your age then thats your decision, but advice given on here is rl, its not nice at times, it is hard work, and sometimes you really are alone in the world when you are a single mum.

I stand by what I said, I think life is to be lived, and having a child will put restrictions on you at such a young age, I know this from experience, and your retort was slamming.

You can get pregnant 10 different ways from sunday but the reality will be, you will be a 22 year old single mother, and that is the same no matter how you get pregnant.

if you want to be a single mother, then listen to someone who knows what its like, that is the reality, the fluffy side is, i had a son at 21 it turned out ok, but that didnt happen by accident it took hard graft lots of sweat and tears.

juneybean · 26/04/2008 20:10

That is not what I am considering by any means.

I will not be a 22 year old mother, last time I checked it took on average 18 months to conceive and 9 months to cook a baby.

And as I've already said I do not want one NOW.

I am aware it will be hard work, I'm not stupid.

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juneybean · 26/04/2008 20:11

ETA: Thank you for your advice though, of course I am grateful for what people say I just don't want people misconstruing what I wish to do.

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Shybaby · 26/04/2008 20:30

juney, can I be really nosy and ask, if you are not considering becoming a mother now (which in all fairness to the posters who have tried to help, that's how it looked), then why are you considering sperm donation/adoption at this point?

You are only 22 and a lot could change in the next few years.

Im aware that must sound so patronising and it is not meant in that way. Im just very curious as to why you would be considering it?

colacubes · 26/04/2008 20:49

Juney, if you dont want one now, why all the questions? As shy states, life changes in a few years especially at 22, and your questions about donation are a little premature if that is the case!. As for 18 months to concieve, it can take 30 seconds, dont bank on 18 months of preperation. Re the stupid comment, nobody has said that, although i would hazard a guess that you have fantasies about names, nursery themes, prams, you probably have it all planned, bar the reality of the situation, which is what you are being given on here.

Please consider your position, and dont bank on 18 months planning, that isnt always the case!

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