can I be selfish and talk about me (and my current date)

[MascaraOHara]

I've been out with him twice in 2 weeks, should I cancel my date with someone else on Saturday to see him again?

yep zippi we are! lol.

my third date was er, at DP's. took, all I could not to say something about the state of the kitchen. oh hang on.. lol. well the cooker, he flat shares with 2 other man, but it has to be said, I did moan enquire when the loo wasn't flushed no need for that.

good luck thou, how about a few over the local & back to his for a movie?

OK well I'm deffo going over to his tomorrow night.

Will report back. still have 2 seperate dates potentially lined up for next week.

[whispers] Mascara, are you back yet? Did you have a nice time? (I'm whispering cos it's two in the morning. If you're not back yet, we take it things went well )

lol LW.. it's tonight..

will post an update tomorrow but probably wont be until evening

how did it go?

dont be too late posting an update or i may have to text you because of the suspense!

It went very well thanks.

Went to his, then decided to head out to his local for a drink befor egoing back to his for a dvd.. ended up going to both his locals, meeting some of his mates and just getting drunk really.. was all very relaxed and pretty much home from home.

Stayed at his (nothing happened) but he was very cuddly and said he was glad I stayed etc

he's text me a fair few times today. I think he is definitely more keen than I am though I do like him.

It all just feels a bit too comfortable and matey (maybe that's not a bad thing, heavn't decided yet).

Kind of feel like the jury's out still.

Went for lunch today with xp so he could see dd.. he knows I am dating and kept asking me if I was Ok, telling me how much he missed us etc then asked if he could come round one evening during the week as he needs to talk.

He always says how it was my decision but I was saying today it was my decision buit he left me no alternative at the end of the day... I've only just started to feel normal after we split up last July I'm not sure how I'll react if he says he wants us back.. I just don't think that I'd ever be able to trust him again.. which is a shame as everything else was fantastic.

I'm still hungover lol

Lou, Did you go out this weekend? have you seen the guy from the other Saturdya since?

sounds like it went fairly well then

i'm not sure what to say about your ex, aside from if you think he is going to put you in a situation you will not be comfortable with, then dont meet him

that bloke last saturday is a total mystery, he went from saying how much he wanted to see me again to disappearing from the face of the earth, so i would say nothing is going to be going on there lol

i did go out last night, very last minute, to meet a couple of friends, one of whom told me again how much he cared for me (it's been a long complicated friendship)and wanted me to give it a go with him

i am not entirely sure what to do for many reasons, but i may be seeing him again tonight to talk a bit more, if i can sort myself and the kids out early enough, to be ready for the morning

we shall see

Oh dear, MOH, that's confused the issue a bit, with xh wanting to 'talk'.

Glad you had a nice time on your date though. It was a night out, if nothing else.

Lou, Sat night bloke sounds weird, steer cear. What are you going to do about your friend who wants more?

Update on my weird weekend...

xp phoned late last night.. gave me all the lines about how he can never ben with anyone else and how she (his gf) knows somethings not right.. can't stop thinking about us knows how stupid he was etc

Explained to him very clearly that he left me no choice, that I don't think we could get back together even if we wanted to because I just don't believe a word he says and I don't know how he could ever change that.

I just told him he needed to leave me alone for a few days while I had a think.. in my heart I think I know we can't get back together but it'll be hard all over again.

We split up last July, I've only really just started feeling like my old self and realising that some of the things that have happened have all been because I wasn't over him etc I did ask him if he feels likes this because he know's I've started dating people again but he says not. who knows.

and then this. and it's not just us that it effects, he is with the girl he left to come back to me first time round, we have mutual friends (who are also friends with his GF) and our families - not to mention dd. It breaks my heart to see them together (esp. as she's not his by blood) they adore each other, completely and utterly.

And in the meantime, have decided that new bloke is genuinely keen and might actually be quite lovely. We have plans to see each other Thursday & Saturday this week - that'll be 5 dates with him in

Oh, this is horribly difficult for you. You can't see into the future, so don't know how things will go with your new bloke, so it must be very tempting to think about your ex's proposal because at least you know him. Really and truly, in your heart of hearts, could you forgive him though? I knew I never could, so a reconciliation would have been useless.

FWIW, I do think your dating again has hit your xh hard, whether he admits it to himself or not.

moh dont worry i am

as for friend, well this is an on and off long running thing, he has said it before then freaks and runs off, which is what he has done again lol

i knew he would, in fact i said to him as i was dropping him off yesterday afternoon that i wouldnt see him again before he went, and as usual he said he would, but i was right lol

he's young which possibly makes things worse, he is only 25, so i am leaving it, and next time he starts i am going to tell him to hush

this has been rumbling on and off for 2 yrs now

as for the rugby guy moh, LOL well done

your new guy sounds very nice

LW, I think that is probably the case.. it has taken me this long to not feel sick at the site of his car outside he gf's house so can imagine that him seeing me starting to move on will have got to him in that 'now or never' context.

Lou, I think he is very nice but I expect that

a) he is much more naive than I am
b) is much softer than I am
c) is much more into this than I am

I think I remember you talking about that bloke before, did you meet up with him last night?

there is no harm in seeing how it goes for a short time tho i think, is there? a couple more weeks anyway

yes same guy, never ending saga lol

no i didnt meet up with him, i sent him a text wishing him a safe flight back in the end

he will drift in and out of my life, i just have to be more firm about it all when he starts the relationship stuff again

the more I think about the new bloke the mopre I quite like him. Looking forward to Thursday

there is nothing wrong with that

Hi guys. I am very amused with all your internet dating tales. Unfortunately, I think I have probably entered into the whole thing a bit too soon as DH only left at xmas. Needless to say, it seems to be a sort of diversion. The thing is, a few weeks ago, after much e-mailing, I had really long ('til 4am in the morning) phone call with this guy who sounded (and looked on his snap) very nice. It all sort of kicked off and I think I was probably a bit too keen. Anyway, he cancelled our date (phoned later) then texted to say he was acting like spotty teenager (even though we are obviously both oldies). I have texted again but he has gone very silent. I feel dumped... he obviously isn't interested (hard to be dumped by someone you haven't met!). Glad to hear you guys are having much more luck... I would just love some attention! x

Some men are twits LM.. on the other hand maybe he is really shy or something.. or has developed an ugly boil and doesn't want to tell you..

The first time I used dating sites was as a distraction to breaking up with someone.. worked well but didn't actually meet up wioth anyone at the time.

agree with MOH, I used them last nov as a bit of a laugh, to get a little confidence up as it were - started talking to a v v v sexy man, but alas he was a nob - so looks are not everything! now thou have met a man who's lovely.

either way in the early days I used it as a bit of fun of an evening when DS was in bed!

hope you get on well moh.

Sooo 4th date tomorrow night. At mine. Cooking dinner and watching a film.

Have been in contact almost daily.. he's growing on me quite a bit.

ex phoned last night again think I'm going to have to tell him we can try again (would be 3rd time round) horrible knowing you can't be with someone even though you know you both love each other.

so he came for dinner..

..and..

..he just took me out for coffee at lunchtime.

I've also learnt his car cost (quite a bit) more than my gross annual salary

did he stay?

MOH he sounds nice, there are men out there that do treat women with respect, enjoy it

no he didn't stay. I didn't ask him to. I did feel like he didn't want to go though.

went out and watched a film last night.

he's sweet. It all feels very natural and easy at the moment.

he's coming over wednesday.

getting lots of messages from ex. very hard and definitely muddying the water

i would assume that is the intention your ex has moh

this new guy sounds very nice, you should give him a chance