Sometimes I completely see the point of a "Friends with benefits" arrangement

[SmugColditz]

Cos I am bored, and I am lonely. You know.

Lonely.

I miss grabbing someone in for a squeeze, that's all. I'd love a cuddle.

Not a kids cuddle, I want a cuddle where I can cop a feel.

like i said, keep your options open! you never know what you might stumble upon or see decorating a wall .

No type of relationship is impossible to find, just some take a bit more finding than others. SKyatnight - you might be best off with a bloke who lives some distance away and doesn;t want to move: the last anyting-like-a-relationship I had was with a man who lived in Nottingham (I live in London) and we saw each other most weekends. He would have been happy with an exclusive relationship but I am not monogamous; he experimented with seeing other people but came to the conclusion that a monogamous relationship was what he wanted and we split up amicably (and he ended up with a right bunny boiler hahahaha).
My advice to everyone hunting for partners is to work out what your actual dealbreakers are (drug habit, non-exclusive relationship, supports Chelsea, more than 5 kids by 3 different women) and date anyone who's free of them, take it slowly and enjoy.

Been there, bought the t shirt etc. Had more fuck buddys than I care to remember and friends with benefits also. Would never go down that route now as I'm shaggedout tired of it. But then again I'm not getting any either but feel at peace with myself

Perhaps I should rethink though and lower my standards too .

Just do what feels right for you and sod what other people think.

Yes, Madamez, but I don't like long-distance relationships. I want someone 'handy' who lives down the road but doesn't interfere in the rest of my life unless I want him to.

i'm going to quote Jane Austen (IRL) on that, sky:

'the only way to get a man like that is to make him up'.

Madamez, the 'hahaha' bit belies your amicable split, methinks I'm only joking, don't tell me off [ducks down and covers head emoticon]

lol at AE being shagged out

In the world of Jane Austen. My man lives within striking distance but has his own life and leaves me to mine, is there when I need him, kind and generous, romantic and loving just when I want him to be.

No, mine lives a three minute drive away. And I haven't made him up, honestly!

Lucky you

Indeed.

hmm i am quite scared of this relationship so interesting someone else might want it....i find i feel worried all the time

Which relationship, MB, the 'friends with benefits'? What would you feel worried about? STD's were always my big worry, that's why they're not really for me, even though I carried rubber raincoats.