Just thought I'd let those of you who know my last 2.5 yrs (and any lone parents who are struggling) know that things can turn out ok.
Have successfully remortgaged my house & paid off ex. This means that I can continue with my future without money hanging over my head. It will be tough financially but I am lucky enough to be able to do it. Means we can stay in house too so less disruption for kids.
I now stand in the back garden at night when kids asleep looking up at MY house. I am in cloud cuckoo land
Still not divorced (decree nisi granted nov 2006) but ex has been dragging heels over the money and solicitor advised not completing divorce til money sorted. Didnt think it would take 18 mths. My wedding anniversary on Thurs but now I view it as just a day - doesnt mean anything.
Hopefully within next month I will be divorced.
For anyone who's lying toad of a husband has had an affair & left, there is light at the end of the tunnel & you AND your children will survive