What would you do in my situation.
Sons father has been a complete let down his whole life ( hes 12) , NEVER paid support, been inconsistent in his life , no regular visits ect - at most once a month. No overnight stays - just half a day out somewere if he does appear.
We split up when son was 1 as he mistreated me. We are from different cultures which really wasnt as issue untill son was born.
He contacts me out the blue after seeing my son at the weekend demanding a DNA test? After 12 years saying he doesnt think my son is his child. Mentioned his family have thought the same.
Im married now , my husband has been in my sons life since he was 2 and my son knows no different. We are a happy family content with another two children added. We have a very stable home environment.
It would hurt my son terribly if he knew this so i have not told him. I ask nothing of his father , never have and have always taken the view that i need to let him decide through his own interactions and experiences how he feels about his dad and what contact he wants.
There is no possibility that he is not my child father. He is delusional and has convinced himself of a different version of reality when we were together. He was possesive and controlling and i ended up with no friends so never went anywere. He claims i was cheating whilst at work 🤯
I have no interest in speaking to the man and rarley do these days now my son is 12 so to have this message sent out the blue is very bizzare. He ranted through text message how i ruined his life ect. i never caused this man any harm, all i did was leave a dysfunctional relationship . I didnt want my son to grow up thinking this home environment was normal.
Im happy to have him out our life so have refused his ‘demand’ but worry about when my son starts to question why theres been no contact . What do i say? Do i give in to his fathers games for his sake ?
Thanks if you have gotten this far