Decide It's all over. Want SS to take him.

[Spopssas]

I'm a shit mother.

Well it's 3.40am. If I was pissed it would show by now. I'm not. I'm just awake. I'm awake and insomnia isn't a crime. Going to make a cup of tea and toast. DS has two huge teenager mates over for a sleepover. They're both 6 foot tall with braces. Upstairs crammed into his bedroom. MASSIVE shoes down here. I am allowed to be awake at this time and unable to sleep. I am not drunk. I am not anything. I am just awake and listening to music and wishing the world was kinder

Are you sure they aren’t just presenting you with the worst case scenario in a bid to try and shock you into changing some aspects of your life? Maybe they are trying to say you have taken on a lot of caring responsibilities while not healthy (I firmly believe alcoholism should be treated not with scorn but as a medical condition) and that you need to start thinking about yourself for a bit.

Right, okay. Is there any way we can help you? What is the background of this situation. You might feel right now that you can go all guns blazing but that's not going to bring a solution to you when you wake up in the morning feeling rotten with the fear.
You've said you drink a bottle a night, fair enough, I bet many people here can get on board with that. Can you say why though? You're not drinking during the day. My guess would be that you've admitted to that to Social Services out of guilt, to make someone else judge you instead of you judging yourself every day.
You're clearly capable of taking care of several life forms that depend on you to live.
What has happened to trigger this?

In that case (or any case) sorry you are going through such a difficult time.

I hope you get some sleep in a while. Take care op.

When you are ready to say clearly on here what is happening to you, then people may be able to help. Good luck.

I totally get it…I have daughters who are adhd and asd…one is kind the other is horrible…it’s a nightmare…everything my fault…pm me

I don't have to tell anyone anything.

Thank you so much to the kind posters. You've helped me.

Get in touch with me

I’ll help with just being there

OK, so Social Services have visited and told you they think your child(ren?) might be at risk, probably mostly due to you drinking. They are concerned your teen is having to care for you.

They maybe also mentioned some other silly things like gardening and chickens which has obviously got your back up.

Is there any truth to their main concerns though? If so, don't you want to get some help and work on those things? If there's no basis to the claims at all, can you get an advocate to help you calmly put your case forward? Surely that's better for everyone than just throwing in the towel.

You dont have to tell anyone anything but if you want help, you need to tell people what help you want. If you dont want help but a rant, then that is fine too. But posting that you want SS to take your child away is a big thing to say and you are being very aggressive in your posts to people reacting to that, its not going to get you any support. I say this as someone, as I posted above, who has had to deal with SS and their "support". I get how hard it is but being antagonisitic isnt going to help.

Please don't be offended by the suggestion of registering your son as a young carer. It sounds like things are really tough for you and it's an extra layer of support service.

What on earth have chickens got to do with your kid(s) being at risk?! That’s got to be pretty scary flock of chickens! Unless your teen is missing school to collect eggs for you…

Sorry just teasing.

Listen OP you’ve got this - you’ve raised a child through to those difficult teen years, you’re single-parenting and that is the very definition of hard work.

You must stop drinking. Get to AA and stop. It might be harder than anything else you will ever do (sadly I can’t guarantee it) but you’re going to do it. This is what will turn things round. Please do this for yourself and your son.

Yes. I'm clearly permanently pissed. He is caring for me right now, up in his bedroom asleep with his mates after pizza and melon all round.

Why aren't you all in bed like I should be? Australians? It's 4.50 now. Who are you?

So who would SS be registering him as a young carer for? Not judging, just trying to understand.

Well, I’m jet lagged but also insomniac 🤣 UK.

That's such a kind strong message. Thank you

Insomnia here too

I currently have £16 worth of stuff I don't need in my Temu basket.

Yesd. I need a solicitor.

I need an employment solicitor and a family law solicitor. And a decorator.

Don't go there. Clear your basket.

I'm awake because I work remotely in collaboration with people in different timezones, so my workdays start and end very early by UK time. Just chilling on social media for a bit before I start.

What would you like from this thread OP? You sound intoxicated, which is certainly not a crime, but you know that drinking a bottle a night is most likely going to lead to serious health problems, and will impact on your son. No-one is saying this makes you a terrible parent, but it sounds as though you could do with some help. Talking to your GP would be a good first port of call. I know its difficult to get an appointment. You can also contact AA - they have meetings online, 24/7, and you don't have to talk at all, you can just listen. Or if you just want to rant here, fair enough, but its a bit unfair to bite people's heads off just for responding to a thread that sounds like a person asking for help.

I'm awake because I don't work remotely in collaboration with people in different timezones. It' s 5.10 now and like you, I'm just chilling on social media for a bit.

I'm awake because I'm on nights, WFH.

If you need legal advice and cannot afford a solicitor CAB is a good place to start. They can at least signpost you to the right services.

If there are no physical health issues stopping you, you could always have a crack at decorating yourself.

Can you make a list of steps and a plan to improve your circumstances? Can you access helpful support? Life throws some big curve balls at us sometimes.