To ask how much child maintenance you receive

[taxpayer1]

Just that and has it increased to take the cost of living into consideration?

This thread is horrifying. It’s 2022, we are supposed to be more evolved, more humane, more equal, kids are supposed to be better supported. Yet 90% of the responses on here the men pay nothing or so little it’s a joke.

Zilch. I just pretend that he's dead because if he were dead I wouldn't get anything anyway and that's how I deal with it. He works too but doesn't declare anything. Makes my piss boil.

My ex has ducked and dived for years. This year he declared he earned 7k. I asked for a diversion of income and a benefit check because surely if he's earning 7k he's getting benefits. He's now got to pay me nearly £600 a month until May. Payment due next week. I'll wait and see. I wouldn't mind but he somehow thinks he's paying me or paying for my "lifestyle". I need the money because my son is autistic, has a compulsive eating disorder, grows out of clothes and shoes every month and he left me with a massive mortgage to keep the roof over our son's head. Fucking lifestyle 😡

Nothing-he thinks it’s all one big joke,I’d only spend it on myself and that I stopped him seeing them

its all bollocks but that’s the way he thinks

still claims he’s a good dad though

325 a month. Paid direct between tbe parents for one child. It used to be 350 but he said he forgot to factor his pension in.
He recently tried to reduce it further citing increase in petrol costs as he picks up and collects but I put my foot down

I looked this up yesterday. Unless there's a significant pay increase then they don't have to pay more as it's not linked to inflation. I get £420 from my ex for 2 kids. I probably should get more but he pays every month and quite frankly it's much easier than being married to him.

Always less than it should have been. Was c£700 for three years ago, now £500 for one but having to go back to CMS as Uni finance application flagged up that he was yet again lying about his income. He’s managed to alienate his 3 DC by moaning every time he sees them about paying for them. Utter wanker.

Have you gone through REMO?

it’s most commonly used when the paying parent lives abroad, but it can actually be used the other way.

and CMS are often much better at dealing with maintenance when another country is involved (appearances are important…)

Because cms do nothing about non payments and even wrote off my exes arrears, there is no consequences for not paying, cms actually told me they wouldn’t do anything because he “could” be living off a partner… “could”🙄

Yep, filled out all the paperwork 3 times on the California end (County lost it once, State lost it once and CMS lost it once), then when CMS finally acknowledged receiving the paperwork, their response was that "they couldn't locate him"...Note that the paperwork included his address, the title to his home (which he owns), his business website, his vehicle registration, his NI number, his phone number and a copy of his driver license and passport. When I tried to contact the person who "investigated" they told me that they couldn't do anything more and that I needed to speak to their supervisor and the supervisor never returned my calls or emails.

Your ex doesn't sound spiteful tbh it sounds like you don't want to pay. You should've gone to CMS when your DC lived with you

I've recently realised bring kind bites you in the ass I didn't enforce child maintenance for years he told everyone he was paying loads (self employed paid me naff all) then he left that job as I went to csa he then spent years dodging around going job to job then I finally got an order for 180 a month he quit his job he is not even paying the jsa rate he just quit his job quit paying all at the same time I guarantee if my kids ever go to him the FIRST thing he will do is run to csa but I'm the one whose career has suffered because I'm taking care of the children his has only suffered because he keeps QUITTING JOBS

I think the process you are following is incorrect. You need a child maintenance order from a court in California, then you take it to REMO to enforce it in the UK. Allegedly the process is straightforward albeit slow.

There is a reciprocity treaty between most of the US States including California and the UK. I had a court order already as part of my divorce and CMS is supposed to follow it but the application has to be made with child support in your local California County who sends it to the California State Child Support department that handles the agreement with the UK and then they pass it on to CMS in England. Too many people in the path which is why it kept getting lost. The method by which it arrived in the UK was the correct one it's just that CMS chose not to deal with it. Ex is self-employed so it's a pain in the ass for them, so easier to ignore. But in any case even if they had issued an order, ex would never have paid it. I mostly just wanted to tell the kids when they were older, that I had tried.

There is no accountability, if someone doesn't want to pay there are so many loop holes and no enforcement.
My children are owed £9,000!
The system allows this financial abusive to continue. No wonder children from single parent families are often disadvantaged!

Why would it increase for you when he’s in the same cost of living crisis? That makes 0 sense!

@Shauny098 i never said it should? I answered the OP’s question who asked if it had increased because of the cost of living crisis.

Why would it increase?

The money is coming from someone else who is also experiencing the cost of living crisis. It doesn't come from a magical pot.

For contrast £1k per month plus percentage of bonuses. My ex has many flaws and is unreliable with the children but has always been good to them financially. He is a very high earner though.

Nursery fees are £1700 per month so it would be difficult if he wasn’t contributing.

My ex pays me through the CMS each month as the children live with me. He is insistent that any extra items such as extra curricular activities and residential school trips are to come out of the money he pays me.
My understanding is that what he pays me is to cover basic living costs, food, clothes etc

It will depend on how much he pays for his children. Legally, he is only mandated to pay the CMS. If what you receive is too low, maybe you can convince him to contribute.

He is right legally

Currently zero as he jacked in working/ got sacked and isn't looking for another job. He has hundreds of thousands ( that I had to pay him off with) in the bank.

What's the purpose of this thread @taxpayer1? Your posts are odd.

£400 increased to £500 for COL

He said he didn't want dd to feel the cold like he did as a child.

He is still a dick most of the time though.