Why can't I decide wether I want to meet someone new or not ??

[nutcracker]

I mean I do want to, and I don't want to, all at the same time.

I am on a couple of dating sites and tbh I am quite picky, but every now and again i'll take the plunge, go through and send messages to a few that I like the sound/look of.

Then if they reply, I am totally gobsmacked and run away, never replying to their message which is both mean and bloody stupoid.

For example, am on one site where I messaged a bloke a while ago and he has just replied saying his cumputer was broken but that he's now back online if i'd still like to chat.

Now I dunno if I do.

Sure what harm can chatting do?

It's not like you're holding hands & kissing behind the bike sheda

LOL very true, although wouldn't say no to that, or would I

I hate being such a indesicive person, drives me nuts.

Dunno what to put in my reply though.

Personally i would love to meet someone new but i am not even brave enough to join any dating sites so can't see i have much chance at the moment. Just not confident enough to do it.

At least you have made that step forward. Just chatting to this man can't hurt. Just gives you a chance to get to know him a bit better.

I'm not sure I am confident enough even for chatting though Tortoise.

Tbh i'd much rather meet someone naturally but as I never go out that is unlikely to happen. Mind you have 2 nights out in Nov so watch this space LOL.

So what shall I put in the reply then ??

Should I give my msn addy or not ?

You must have some confidence to add your self to sites in the 1st place.
Wouldn't it be so much easier to just magically meet someone >

Someone will grab you when you are least expecting it. A bloke at the kebab van asked for my number a couple of months ago and was so pissed he couldnt use his phone to give me his number, so I took his email addy and we have been emailing since, and we met for a drink one day and then again that night and we are back to emailing again as he lives miles away.
I dont THINK its going anywhere, but hes LOVELY and LUSH and its nice to think about when im wiping the kitchen down
Do reply to the bloke, see where it goes.
A drink in the afternoon with him, once you get to know him is a SPLENDID way to spend the time when the kids are at school.
Its doesnt need to lead to a full blown thing....just tred carefully and see where it goes

LOL Tort, yeah it would.

I think I only add myself just to see if anyone would be interested.

Give him your MSN and block if he flashes his bits on the webcam lol

CC why have not heard about this man before ???

I will reply, but dunno if it will go anywhere as we live quite a distance away, well for a non driver anyway.

Shall I just say yes, i am still interested in chatting then ? Include MSN addy ??

shall i bore you with his emails?? im on msn just not showing

LOL ok then.

He is a plumber/electrician, which is exactly what my house needs anyway LOL

Lol CC
I agree, give him your MSN addy and just see how it goes.

Go on then CC

Well if you encounter someone who seems pleasant, it's worth maintaining contact. If he's not Mr Right he might still be a nice friend/f*ckbuddy. And a little light online flirting is harmless and puts a smile on your face anyway.

OK so I am happily single and only get the occasional bunk-up at a swingers' party (and really, really don't want to date) but flirting is still fun.

Ok, have replied, just saying that yeah i'd still like to chat.

I feel the same, sometimes I'd love to have a boyfriend but other times I think no, I'm not ready, I'm too fragile and I can't trust anyone these days.

I also have no idea where to meet a decent fella!! I can't do the online thing, I just can't bring myself to register. I'm too shy and very afraid of rejection - what if no-one replies to me or what if it's a maniac???!!

Nutcracker - I hope it goes well for you and the chatting turns into something special

I feel like this too i want to move on and i see blokes that i like the look off, email them and then get scared. I contacted one bloke yesterday but he wanted to get fruity, i told him i was not that type of girl and not heard since. Not sure if i will not sure if i am bothered. Its my last attemp at online as its quite expensive if i am not actaully going to meet them.

you just get used to chattin to them nutty i think...i have a few that i chat to

and two i've met

both completely different characters...but they won't be more than flings/friends as too young

don't want a relationship as such myself in the proper sense at the moment i don't think...well not unless i meet someone suitable who likes me and that isn't likely

so i am going climbing again next sunday and getting intimate again in the week with the other one if i have time lol

Lol @ zippi!

won't hurt to talk to these guys, and just get to know them a bit, Nutty, even just for a bit of fun & a confidence boost!

Like CC says, someone is likely to come along when you're least expecting it.

well it can't be helped they seem to be niche people that I chat to...can't roll them together so have to apply them separately

I would say go for it. I got chatted up on Facebook within five hours of going on and that's not a singles site. We still chat after six weeks but I don't think anything will happen now. He lives about three hours away. Says he may be up my way soon. But like you all say it is a confidence boost.

What are the best singles sites to go on?

there is nothing wrong with talking to people nutty

just see how it goes

right now i'm thinking about just cultivating a fuck buddy again instead of dating , as i dont think i really can be arsed with the complication of a proper relationship

Will you consider me Lou?

join the queue charlie