Exh was abusive, social services stopped him seeing the kids after we split. He took to me court for access, took 2 years to finally reach an agreement. He lasted a month before then cutting all contact off with the kids.
This was towards the end of 2019. Throughout the last year he’s popped up every now and again at the kids hobbies, claims he’s interested in having a relationship but won’t take it back to court, he says I should do that. Sent messages when we first locked down saying the kids could go and live with him if I had to keep working- even though he had had no contact for months at that point and lived with a woman they haven’t met.
He ignored their birthdays and Christmas.
He is now asking for daily updates about homeschooling. I wake up every morning to a message saying the same thing as the day before, that he’s willing to help and can’t wait to hear all about their day. Then in the evening I get a barrage of questions about what they’ve done.
He didn’t do this in the first lockdown, he asked nothing about how they were or what they were learning.
On the surface of it, there’s nothing wrong with him taking an interest but it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Over Christmas he criticised what gifts they had received despite sending none himself and made wild accusations about not being our sons father.
I’m always aware he may take the matter back to court one day and don’t want him to have evidence of trying to be involved and me ignoring him so I reply to the messages but it feels so intrusive.
How do I handle this?