Removing my ex-partner from birth certificate

[Swlondon123]

Hi ladies,

Can anyone help me please?

I am thinking about completing the C1 form and going to court to try and remove my ex partner on the birth certificate who has parental rights.

I only knew my ex-partner for 3 weeks and then I got pregnant, during my pregnancy I was subject to a lot of emotional, and psychological abuse. When I was ready to give birth, my ex started to ring lots of health professionals claiming I have borderline personality disorder which triggered the midwife to make a referral to social services as she was concerned about a newborn being born soon which could have made our dysfunctional relationship even worse.

Anyway the social services came to talk to us and made the conclusion that I am in a coercive and controlling relationship and they put the child on a protection plan under category of risk of emotional abuse.

I cannot believe that I was so naive, gullible and stupid to not to think there are such nasty people out there who are capable of domestic violence in order to control and display power over their partners. I always thought of domestic abuse as beating someone until they are black and blue.

So now I wish to remove him of his parental rights, I want him to continue to have a relationship with the child, but I do not want him to control me through my child as he has parental rights and 50% of parental decisions have to be run by him. I am afraid he will manipulate and use this as a means to control me in the future.

Do I have a chance in hell to remove his PR from birth certificate?

I have since fled his flat and I am not living with him anymore (I was advised to leave my social services) , he hasn't had time to build a relationship with our son who is 3 months old, so do I stand any chance of removing his PR?

Thank you so much for your help.

@Mummy3684

Hello I'm a 36 year old mum with a 9 month old girl in foster care who is going to be rehabilitated home soon and I am having unannounced visits. Do social services have rights to do unannounced visits on a weekend

Hi Mummy3684 - I recommend starting your own thread as your comment here will get missed.

In short, yes. If your daughter is the subject of a child protection plan or a care order placed at home, the social worker will need to make unannounced visits and they can be at any time. This is your opportunity to reassure them that your DD is being looked after well. I hope the move goes well

@Mummy3684

Hi

Did you ever get anywhere with this? I am in a very similar situation. However, a same sex marriage. I was planning to have a baby five months prior to meeting my ex partner. When she found out my plans she told me I had to marry her if I wanted to have a baby and be with her. I married her after four months of being with her. I was then trapped in an abusive relationship and went on to have my daughter. I wasn’t aware I was in an abusive relationship until after my daughter was born and I had spoken to my health visitor. My ex wife now has parental rights to my daughter and this is absolutely absurd. She uses my daughter to get to me. Something needs to be done.

Any help would be greatly appreciated. I hope you managed to keep you and your son safe.

My ExH took me to court despite being very abusive, I now have to live within 15 minutes drive of him, and I can't move more than that without his written permission.

It sucks.

Your missing the point in due respect. Someone having a gambling problem or contemplating suicide does not mean they are a bad father.
He does not need to be an exceptional father (in the eyes of the law). He only needs to be "good enough". The courts will only care about safeguarding conserns.
There is a format and a protocol to go down for proving these things. It takes a long time through the family courts and cafcass and social services. It's taken me a year and 8 court hearings. It has also had a massive emotional cost on myself and the children.
Give up trying to have him removed from the birth certificate and concentrate on your child's safety. If he's asking for contact think about what could be a safe level. Eg in a contact centre. But you will need firm proof that this is needed and that there are significant safeguarding conserns to warrant this. I had very good evidence and it was still a huge struggle, this was with witnesses that gave statements and evidence in court, police records and convictions.
The stance of the court and cafcass is that a child has the right to know both parents and unless it's going to course harm to the child/s or other parent, they will aways support it.
If he has shown no interest in seeing the child I would leave it and just stay quiet. I'm unsure what you can do about wanting to go to France, I would see a solicitor about both issues. Good luck

Sorry OP but your feelings about your ex partner aren't overly looked by the courts they act on behalf of the child and in the best interest of the child (so they claim) so.if he is a good dad to your child you have little to no chance of him being removed it's a legal document which both of you willingly signed you can't expect your Ex partner to still see a child you want him to have no rights over it's a really hard situation to be involved in I completely understand the coercive control, gaslighting behaviour and manipulation you have and are still experiencing x

What about an abusive man with a gambling problem who has gambled £20,000 this year, an alcoholic whose been banned for 3 years from driving, someone who has an extensive criminal record, and someone who admitted having suicidal thoughts in April this year. Sounds like such a catch eh? He is a dangerous man and the less contact he has with my child the better.

Quite mystifying why you thought having a child with him would be the best course of action. Anyway, go to a solicitor dealing in family law and see what can be done. If a court believes any of the above are safeguarding issues then he will get supervised contact if he wants contact. If the court doesn’t believe they are safeguarding issues in relation to your child then he will get unsupervised access if he wants contact. Your solicitor will also advise you regarding PR but I can’t imagine a court will strip him if those, as others have pointed out you can be a mass murder if kiddy fiddler and basically still have PR, sad but true.

I don’t understand, you want him to have a relationship with the child but you’re not allowing any form of contact?