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Child asking about father

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Imabiscuit · 17/08/2020 21:44

Hi, I have never posted on here before but here goes...in 2011 I bumped into an ex-work colleague who apparently used to fancy me (long time before) we swapped numbers and agreed to meet up for a drink.

During the drinks he confessed he still liked me, fast forward a few weeks later we have started having an affair. He is married with two children.

This continues sporadically until 2014 and stops because I become pregnant. Which wasn't planned. I wasn't in love with him. But being pregnant changed everything.

I became shell-shocked and during the early stages he tried more than once to get me to have an abortion. I even went to a clinic but when they called me I didn't get up.

Fast forward to now and my beautiful funny boy has started to ask about his father. I just don't know what to say. I gloss over it by talking about the family we have and always tell him how much he is loved.

But I know the questions will keep coming and I'm not sure how to address them.

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omg35 · 17/08/2020 21:46

Be factual in an age appropriate way. All children have daddies but not everyone sees theirs and the reasons for that are complicated but I love you and I'll always be here for you

Imabiscuit · 17/08/2020 21:47

Thank you.

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Emmiess · 28/08/2020 19:04

I feel for you. I am in a similar situation. I was with someone for about six months and fell pregnant. He bullied me into having an abortion but I just couldn’t do that to my baby. My D.S is now 8 months and I’m dreading the day he asks about his father. Breaks my heart just thinking about it. I hope more people reply with more advice, or even better someone who has faced this situation themselves.

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