If you're on your own with kids 100% of the time how do you date?!!!

[Liverpoolarefab]

Just that really, widowed and have two children. I've been single for over 5 years - Id really like to meet someone. But I don't have any family support so just wondering how going on dates or spending time with someone else would work ?? Has anyone managed it ? Feeling pretty low abt it , thanks.

13 and 7. They'd be fine together, it's just working out if time in an evening is ok

I feel like what did I leave for. For this? She doesn't even want me going for a simple walk. It's no kind of life at all. *
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This. I simply swapped one cage for another. Overall our day to day life is easier, much easier without him. But I'm just as trapped, it's just that I'm trapped in a different way.

I really want to make this change. I'm going to manage it despite the lack of support. I totally get where you are coming from

It depends on the age of the children.
I had my child at weekend extra curricular activities where i would have 3 hours to myself.. I would schedule the dates around those times, sometimes arranged a lunch date during work or take the afternoon off work.
I also had friends who were able to watch my child in the evening and would end dates by 9pm. Other times, it could be after 8pm at home when child was sleeping for dinner and drinks..if you want to make it work you will

How do you date?

-You don’t.

I have legit cobwebs in my pants 🕸

I've just come to accept that its probably not going to happen. I'm 34 and its been me and my Ds pretty much all his life. It never used to get to me but it makes me sad that this is how it is for me now. Don't get me wrong I adore my life with my DS but you can't help but miss being someone else other than a mother.
I work around my son. There are 10 minutes between dropping him to school and getting to work, and then 10 minutes again when leaving work to collect him. Evening and weekends are spent with my son and all holidays. His dad has no contact by his own choice. I have good parents however they work alot themselves so although offer to have him, they have him very little. But then my mom can be judgemental and tells me when you have a child you no longer get a social life etc.

Thing for me is I dont have any opportunity to meet anyone, and then if I did I dont know how it would work. Do I have the time? Am I willing to make the effort and compromise time away from my child for a man?
But I dont have a social life either so I just don't see how I will ever have a different life to the one we have now.