Lonely, does anyone fancy a chat?

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hiya, single mum here. I’ve noticed theres a few places on mumsnet for just a general chat and i wondered if anyone would like one in the lone parents section. It would be nice to make friends with some other single parents and be able to check in with everyone and have people to offload onto.

Thank you @MummySharn it's so difficult isn't it :( I can't imagine what it's gonn be like when the baby is here. I'm so scared my husband will just expect to take him away after having no involvement and giving no support in my pregnant :(

Can anyone give any advice on UC? For the first 16 weeks my employer contributes to my star mat pay to meet my salary, after then I get stat mat pay. Can anyone advise how that effects UC? The job center said it should increase but I'm reading conflicting info online and I'm so concerned I'll be a single mum with £600 a month with for 2 children!!

Hi sorry I fell off, hope everyone is doing well x

Hey how's everyone doing?

I have a 7month old little girl and I am currently on maternity leave. My partner left me when I was 8 months pregnant and has fucked off to go work abroad. Pregnancy and maternity leave has been a very dark/lonely place for me. Some days a struggle but I know I have to be ok for little girl.

@Kelis22 hope you have family and friends around you. The first few months are hard enough when you have a supportive partner. I'm sure you are doing an amazing job.

Looks like a sunny day here. So hopefully get out today. Need the weather to warm up now.

I am planning on visiting family in Spain. But not sure about travelling with the virus at the moment. So hard making these decisions on your own.

Hope everyone had a good day

Thanks @unicornsarereal72

How was your day? Yes it was sunny here today but soo cold out I took Ava to jellybeans for the first time she loved it!

I wouldn't cancel your plans to visit family, I know it's scary with everything going on but I'm sure you'll be fine. I am planning a trip to Tenerife in April I'm a bit anxious but just take extra precautions lol

@november90 I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through all this whilst pregnant. Honestly I’ve been there and I know it’s completely devastating to realise your unborn child isn’t going to have their dad around, but you said it yourself that you can’t bring the child into a broken relationship and once your child is born hopefully you’ll start to see some of the positives of being able to do everything your way and not his. Also, if you have a good relationship with your parents then being at their house might be one of the best things - I was so much less lonely than most mom’s on maternity that I knew (with partners) because I always had my mum around at home. It can be a real blessing to have the help and people to cook you a meal or make you a drink, especially in the early weeks.

@MummySharn my DS is also mixed race and I live in a very white area, but oddly most people don’t even seem to realise he’s mixed race (to me it’s obvious) and I certainly haven’t had anyone suggest he isn’t my child. I always thought it was bizarre (and racist) that people couldn’t comprehend that people of different colours were related, but my son looks so much like me and my family I would find it even stranger now if people couldn’t see we were related just because his skin is darker.

@Kelis22 You sound really sad and emotionally drained, but that’s understandable given what you’ve been through. Do you have good friends around?

Hope everyone enjoyed their half terms. My son got sick for most of mine, which sucked but at least I didn’t have to take unpaid leave to look after him as a result silver linings

Morning all
@Tiredtiredtired100 my kids went through a phase of one or the other of them being sick in the holidays. It peaked when we had booked to go to Spain for 2 weeks and due to an injury we were told my son couldn't fly. Fingers crossed next holidays will be better

@Kelis22 very sensible advice. I hope you have a Lovely holiday so pleased you have something to look forward too