I am really attracted to someone, nothing wil come of it, its only been a passing crush, but it's made me realsie that I am bloody loneyl, yet also am I right in strating to think, maybe I will meet someone else one day?

[pirategirl]

Cos I have totaly written myslef off. It makes me v sad, cos I am only 38, but some days that feels so old, or past it. I nkow its not past it, but I just think my chances of finding anyone are crap.

Yet having seen someone if only from afar and thinking cor! the other day, it has made me alos quite hopeful.

Its also made me realise that a bit of attraction to someone else, and if it were returned would pretty much close the lid on my ex. I just feel like I am in his timewarp iyswim.

I fancy someone, help. Ye si nknow i fancied someone a few months ago, but this one is far nicer. But not available,and doesnt even live near me realy.

god i am a sill cow.!!

lol, wil have a look. I did join a few back in 2005/06, and had a few chats on msn. I have met up with 2 in 2005, but one reallylet me down.

Unfortunatley i have become rather 'oh my god men are tossers' minded in the 2 yrs since dh, i had never felt that way b4.

I think the shock of how the most wonderful person , my husband has behaved has made me not think too highly of men.

Yet the few I have met since, online, and one offline, have not been right for me and ihave ended up feeling worse about myself.

I willhave a look at plentyof fish then!

nutty..I have yet to get the magic thing of someone I really like writing to me first..but i have had some chats with some i like that i have written to first....but no dates...and written back to some that are okish who wrote me first

I find it a bit hard to know whether they are actually interested or just answering..i think sometimes they are quite shy to be honbest (if they get an email from me I'm not surprised)

plentyoffish nutty

Oh I am not keen on plentyoffish, they all seem to be after one thing only.

I am on smooch but seem to only get pics of half naked men.

i havent found that in my case

of course there are some but they dont get to talk to me as i dont reply

the ones i talk to are seemingly decent guys

I thought that the first time nutty but I've got used to it this time worked out how it works better i think..i thought smooch was just sex tbh..I didn't have a full profile or photo on there and i just got loads of r uhot stuff

pirategirl I met dh2 when I was 38 and a single parent, we now have a dd aged 10.

At 38 you're still a babe

yes pirategirl i met exdp when i was 42 and he was 31 and when were together for 8 years..and although I am training myself to hate him at the moment, it was pretty good tbh

You're not silly at all!
I just got dumped by my partner of 13 years,am 33 so I spent pretty much the majority of my adult life with him.´
Had gone off sex big time for the last year or so,and honestly thought I'd lost all my sexdrive forever.
Then today I saw the most gorgeous man(he works in a local shop actually,hrm),and god!What can I say,lucky he couldn't read my mind!haha
I am happy to say that amongst all the sadness I have felt over the last few weeks,at least i now know that I can really find myself attracted to someone else,yesss!!!:-)

Hi Pirategirl - I'm really sorry to stress you out wondering how I knew where you lived!!! Yes, I think it was the April thread you mentioned, I'm sure you said you lived in "K".

I had just been reading the local paper and read the article about Homestart. A friend of mine found out her dh was having an affair and so became a single mum, she contacted Homestart but they said they had nobody available to help her. She has now met somebody else and they are due to get married in a couple of weeks time, . She recently trained to be a Homestart volounteer, this is why I was interested in the article. I was then reading this thread, thought I would take a peek at your photo and thought I recognised you - so hopefully not too stalker-like for you. This is partly why I mentioned volounteering being a thought!

To answer your question - my ds is 7.5 and goes to S school, my dd is only 3 and starts pre-school this week. Both my kids were in bed by 7pm tonight as they have been driving me absolutely mad, bickering, kicking and talking about bum, wee and pooh all day!!

Bit worrying thought you reading my threads, scintillating reading I'm sure, (well at least I haven't mentioned my piles anywhere, ).

Best of luck in the man hunt

hi Helen, i can assure you I didn't read all your gory threads ( gawd even that sounds gruesome doesn't it)

Just scroled dwon the titles in hope I'd recognise one or two!

Yeah, Homestart were pretty abysmal to me, and left me feeling even worse, and i really was going thru it then.

My dd has only just got off to sleep, she is a terible sleeper/fidget. yet I am very thankful she is so excited about going back to school.

So is mummy.!!

Does anyone else see this internet dating thing as a way of just making online "friends" or people to chat to? I'm starting to think that is what I'm doing really...I think i write to people just the same way i write on mn ...except they are all men...perhaps that is something I'm comfortable doing at the moment...rather than dates as such

when I do write like that I do get a lot of replies

i think its better to write as you feel comfortable with

i certainly dont write "hey hun ur hot", and that type of rubbish, i like to be able to have a conversation with someone

I have three people on soulmates who are all normal (49.49.47)who have started writing to me

i am also back sort of talking to mr banker

and i have a pof who is full of something or other but we have been talking on msn and he is actually really nice despite all his efforts to appear the opposite..he is not relationship stuff though but definitely fun to chat to ..but only 27 and a laugh...i am hoping he might fit my kitchen he is in wolverhampton

I meant I write random ramblings like I do on mn...I find that it is impossible for me to even think about text speak..it is just alien to me even on a mobile

i cant do text speak either, drives me nuts

hate it when i get messages like it

27 eh? saucy!