I am really attracted to someone, nothing wil come of it, its only been a passing crush, but it's made me realsie that I am bloody loneyl, yet also am I right in strating to think, maybe I will meet someone else one day?

[pirategirl]

Cos I have totaly written myslef off. It makes me v sad, cos I am only 38, but some days that feels so old, or past it. I nkow its not past it, but I just think my chances of finding anyone are crap.

Yet having seen someone if only from afar and thinking cor! the other day, it has made me alos quite hopeful.

Its also made me realise that a bit of attraction to someone else, and if it were returned would pretty much close the lid on my ex. I just feel like I am in his timewarp iyswim.

I fancy someone, help. Ye si nknow i fancied someone a few months ago, but this one is far nicer. But not available,and doesnt even live near me realy.

god i am a sill cow.!!

thans zippi, yes I really want to feel good for me too. I jioned the gym a fewm onthsback, but the summer hols seem to have got in the way.

Taking stick a bit now, as dd back to schol 2morro.

What was beetroots advice?

advice equals i need a new bra, hair and make up and clothes

a new head probably wouldn't go amiss either

I do still think am i going to be on my own for ever..it is a dreary thought..rahter that than some of the losers that seem to be around though

I do believe there is nothing quite as figure and morale boosting as a new bra.

i'm cool for bras, i am the one always harpin on about how i used to work in R + Peller, oops there i go again .

my prob is location, living in the sticks is crap. Internest dating is crap, they all just want an online wank! Have gone on lots of dating sites, and just when you think, oh this one is nice, or normal, it goes wrong.

Maybe it's me tho, I am too upfront about not wanting to talk to time wasters.

yes, thats it, !!

they dont all want that, tho loads do i agree

i dated someone for 9m who i met online and he was the best relationship and hte nicest bloke i met, he certainly restored my faith in men hugely after splitting with my exh

i now seem to be possibly at the beginning of a relationship with another guy i met online, i have spent every day with him since thursday

sounds like it's going well lou..I have signed properly onto plentyoffish to join my guardian habit, but they still seem a load of mmmnice pic u r gorgeous types

very tempting to send back yep but u r minging

43 u must be 63 and u have a huge beer gut

you should do

my profile is v to the point about what i will and will not respond to, so i dont get too much crap now

of course loads of them are monosyllabic but you do find some who are more interesting

I'm not very good at being assertive..I defintely find the decent ones evaporate around the 39 mark and if they are ok after that they tend to know it

having said that there is one with chameleons round his neck who has replied and sent me a couple of emails quite poiltely if briefly mainly about sharks...I'll find his name..steveaguy he is, unfortunately I think I'm unlikely to meet him but wouldn't say no lol

I sympathise. I feel exactly the same way and I'm only 20! Though there isn't anybody that I like at the moment, I'm finding being a single parent the loneliest time of my life. Especially makes this feeling worse when I know my ex (babies dad) is out cocking his leg at everything but a lampost! But then he has only seen C 2 times in nearly 15 weeks. I think I know who's missing out more though, as he will never get this time with his daughter back.

well hopefully he will realise soon enough and start a relationship with your child

zippi, i did a search for your area and saw a man who looked quite nice for you

which dating site you using lou33?
which one is good?
thanks

who lou...

I'm curious..I found a few nice ones today, but they aren't keen lol..I can wring a reply from them but that's about it..oh well better than no reply at all

I don't just write to the madly good looking ones by the way..i just do that for fun

zippi, his name is tallslimman

i'm on plentyoffish.com, thanks to charliecat who persuaded me to try it

i've tried others but this one has been the best in terms of not receiving a million crude messages

hmm..well he is an improvement on most for the age..I am just as bad as the men though i do struggle with men the same age as me..if he wrote to me I'd write back, not sure about writing to him as i can't say i fancy him...he sounds ok from what he writes..strangely i have a bit of a block about meeting people who actually live here..it's such a small place

well what age do you want?

I don't mind..as long as they seem nice, healthy and preferably I feel potentially they might be attractive..by coincidence I just had an email from someone actually ..rather a blurry photo (don't they have cameras/phones and the ability to use them)

he is bertie111

sadly his spelling is terrible, but then I think exps was pretty dire..it wasn't actually necessary for him to write to me lol

no dont go there!

yes his spelling was bad, but also he seems like a bit of a chump tbh

i imagine he snorts when he laughs

I agree I have answered him though...it is so harsh for people not to answer..saw the words woodworking and thought he could fit my kitchen

actually I would say he is deffo a sex one

i dont answer all of htem, i probably answer about half, and end up chatting to a dozen, have met 3 from the site altogether

one i def wouldnt want to see again, one was hot but a bit of a player i think and the one i have seen everyday since thurs

well tbh I don't answer all of them either..

I don't mind chatting to some though I just regard it as good practice and a confidence boost...if I do ever meet one then it might not be such a terrifying prospect

surely sooner or later the we both like each other will occur..early days for me, not even sure I want to meet anyone really

pirategirl are you going to try this...lou can coach you too!

Which site are you all using ?? I am doing something really wrong I think, cos I am yet to get one single message off anyone that I think i'd like.