This is so tame compared to some of your problems, sorry. All this bad behaviour from DD's dad just accumulates though and gets me down every time. This week, he attended (whoopee! he's missed over a quarter of the arranged visits over last 6 months or so). While he was inside with her he saw me waiting in car outside contact centre about 1/2 hour before pick-up, told staff he was going to loo but came out to me instead, I wound the window up, so he opened the car door (I'm scared at this point, due to previous violence and he's put his fist through a car window to get me before) and asked me to come and have a cuppa with him and DD as friends. I said no, so he literally walked away, leaving DD in contact centre without as much as a bye, eventually returning just to get in his (mum's) car and be driven off! What a pair of poo people. He's already had a warning letter from contact centre re. attendance, hopefully they'll get fed up and tell him where to go soon, stop him messing DD around, before she's old enough to understand and feel hurt about how rubbish he's treating her.