A Christmas Day thread for those of us on our own

[BuddhaAtSea]

Turns out I’ll be completely and totally on my own on Christmas Day. I’m a really sociable person, got lots of friends and places to go, but this year it’s too short a notice. DD was meant to go to her dad’s, said she won’t, that she really wants to be home. Got home yesterday and she announced she is going after all 🤯.
I really don’t mind inviting myself to my friends, but you know what, I’ll stay home. I really want to do the parkrun on Christmas morning, then come home and spend the day with my dog. I might take her to the beach, grab a curry on the way back, just mooch about on my own.

You’re cordially invited to join me :)

@shitwithsugaron I am still learning. this book helped giving me an idea what do they all mean.

In a nutshell I think it’s treating yourself as you were a dear friend. Speak nicely to yourself. Give yourself a break. That kind of stuff.

Not all those families will be happy though buddha. I've told myself that over the years, we never know what happens behind closed doors.

Been alright today..But I think a little too much wine and time on my own has caused me to start to feel low.

My friend has bought be a ticket to a rave tomorow...so I think I need to stop drinking soon.

This was my beautiful view on my very long dog walk earlier. The prom was packed with families.

But...My house is tidy

@megletthesecond 😂 I know it’s a myth, show me a normal family, I’ve never ever met one 😂. It was the close family/we know each other forever sense that I missed. Although I ought to be grateful, I had that at Parkrun this morning, it’s so friendly and inclusive.

@Curiousmum69, our Norman is playing tomorrow night (FatBoySlim), I was really tempted. But DD is coming home and I used to go with my exP all the time and I really like going with him, so there...maybe in the new year I’ll find other people to go with, or I’ll recycle the ex for this specific purpose. 😂

Errrrmmm, is that the Spinnaker tower in your photo?
Wasn’t it glorious today?

Checking in - day's almost over. Hasn't been too bad. Had a curry, peeled spuds for tomorrow. Watched a couple of movies. The views of your walls are lovely.

Like you both, I need to look after myself more, show myself more kindness and be gentle with myself.

I do and have done so much for my family that in the process, have lost myself. I'll be taking more time for me next year

Ah it's fat boy slim I'm going to see. We must be near each other!!!

OMG, I love it!! Have a fab time. Yes, I think we are ☺️

Well..if you ever need a new rave/run buddy I'm always up for fun !

I went to see a sister bliss faithless set in Brighton recently and OMG was amazing! Have some great new years eve tickets as well. The major advantage to my new single life if having time to make up for lost years!

Well I never....have sent you a pm!

Another one clustered in southern England here.
Engine Rooms looks like a tiny venue for FBS. Have fun curious.

Right. Are we all doing Victorious then?😂

I'm at another festival

Well, thank you all for going through this Christmas with me. I felt less alone, listened to, your company has made it all easier for me. It’s back to work for me, but your kindness and support will send me back into the real world with a smile, more rested and generally with an ease of being. ❤️

Your posts are inspirational Buddha and I will aspire to them for next year. It's been sad and really difficult here, from the weirdness of spending Christmas morning at their dad's house, to the drama of rowing with my mum and having an emotional breakdown
So next year can only be better! And yes to being more self-compassionate in 2020. I'm going to start by buying myself lovely food and staying in on nye, instead of going out and getting drunk. I'm alone nye too.
Hope everyone else's solo Christmases weren't too hard

@Misty9 you’re too kind, I’m a bit embarrassed, I am glad my ramblings helped :)

It looks like I’ll be on my own for NYE as well, but I might just cycle to a pub in town to have a drink and see the new year, I’m sure I’ll see somebody I know, not that big a town. Mind, I am working that day, and I want to do the parkrun the next morning, so I might be too shattered to go out. We’ll see.

@BuddhaAtSea finally I am in a position to post the pic!

Doh! I give up. Don't know why they won't post.
Now back, completely alone as DD just gone off with her dad, another year over.

Don’t worry @OhamIreally, glitches happen :)

So what are you going to do with yourself till DD comes back?
I ordered this book from the dreaded Amazon, I’m looking forward to start it.
Last year I had quite a bit of counselling, and I was recommended a ‘course of self love’. I finished one book this year (called Practice you journal by E Brower). Something like this might keep you occupied?

Done the park run, mentally it was easier, Strava didn’t show a PB, but I did fumble for ages trying to stop it!

Well I've just been out and bought FIVE new dresses.

DD has ADHD so shopping is hellish with her and I can't get her to wait while I try stuff on and it's really stressful so it was amazing to browse shops and try stuff on at leisure. My work wardrobe really needed a boost and I've got a couple of social events coming up so I'm delighted. Especially as everything was on sale.

Meeting friends for dinner and drinks tonight and will definitely try to spend the morning in the gym tomorrow.

I do envy you being able to walk on the beach- it's my dream to live near the sea.