A Christmas Day thread for those of us on our own

[BuddhaAtSea]

Turns out I’ll be completely and totally on my own on Christmas Day. I’m a really sociable person, got lots of friends and places to go, but this year it’s too short a notice. DD was meant to go to her dad’s, said she won’t, that she really wants to be home. Got home yesterday and she announced she is going after all 🤯.
I really don’t mind inviting myself to my friends, but you know what, I’ll stay home. I really want to do the parkrun on Christmas morning, then come home and spend the day with my dog. I might take her to the beach, grab a curry on the way back, just mooch about on my own.

You’re cordially invited to join me :)

Me too. I left my DP 18 months ago and our young adult Dc are back now for Xmas at the family home, where they grew up and DP lives.

While 360 days a year I'm fine ( v amicable in fact vastly improved relationship with ex) I was unprepared for just how sad and alone I felt last Xmas. And I'm aware of those feelings building up rapidly now.

My DS has v conflicted feelings about me and is currently NC with me - refuses to see me. So while DD and ex DP would I think welcome me at Xmas, DS would leave the house and while I can just about manage Xmas alone I know DS couldn't.

Last year I thought I'd be able to treat Xmas day like any other day. Turns out it isn't any other day, for me at least. It's rammed with memories and yes love, under all the plastic tat and by mid day I was weeping and buying wine in the motorway services. (I don't drink).

So this year my plan is

1. Carol service in the morning (I'm not religious but I think it'll do me good to get dressed, see people, sing, and at least give a nod to baby Jesus
2. Clean the house and then have a long bath
3. Microwave my late lunch (!) and enjoy it with a bit of "funny"'tv
4. Book and snacks on the sofa with music not the tv on
5. Play with the cat
6. Go to bed.

Oh and check in with MN periodically through the day :)

Hello everyone, I'm also going to be on my own Christmas eve and Christmas morning for the first year. I'm meeting STBXH and the DC for Christmas dinner and then they're coming back to mine (just the DC) until the 29th.
I'm at work today and have left myself some jobs to do tonight but tomorrow morning will definitely be hard.
Hugs to you all x

I’m about to change the sheets and I’ve got new pyjamas too! Ready for when I come back from the movies. Got a bottle of sparkly and nice cheeses and crackers, grapes etc, ready for tomorrow. Got 2 more episodes of The Witcher saved for tomorrow.
The plan is to go for a parkrun, come back to a hot bath, take the dog for a walk on the beach, come back via the Indian and then hibernate.

Sending big Xmas hugs to everyone xxxx

I like the idea of taking the dog for a walk at the beach, the beach is my kind of safe haven actually but it's a 1.5 hour drive away. I went shopping this morning with the children and went a bit mad over compensating with extras so I think I'll leave sale shopping on Boxing Day bit my friend has invited me round for a bit so I might do that. I've been doing really well all day until ex phoned the kids this evening and then I packed their overnight bag ready so I don't need to do it tomorrow and I feel a bit shit again. About to go have a nice bath to relax myself and hopefully the kids will be asleep and I can pop their presents in their stockings and get an early Ish night myself!

Bleugh

I went to the movies! It was AMAZING. So much so I am tempted to do this on a regular basis.
About to have a shower and hit the sack.
Merry Christmas!

Solo movie watching is bliss buddha. I must try and go in the new year. Mug of tea and a large packet of M&Ms to myself.

Just done the dc's stockings. Fingers crossed all will be calm until 7am.

Hope everyone sleeps well.

@megletthesecond Star Wars is fantastic!
Hope the kids sleep till 7 for you!

Morning all, and a very merry Christmas!
I woke up in the night for a bit, then slept through till 8! Just made a coffee, admiring my new pyjamas, they’re sweet! But very obviously pyjamas, I can’t just put the boots on and a coat and take the dog out.
I opened my only present (DD gave me hers yesterday before leaving), a book and a chocolate. I have a good friend that knows me so well! Really chuffed with it!
I watched Star Wars last night. OMG it was fantastic!
Right, park run it is. It won’t be a PB because the park is waterlogged, as in seriously bad.

Enjoy the day and look after yourselves!

I’m getting demented. I said how good it was in 3 posts so far, jeez. But it really was that good.

Enjoy your park run! I'm just up, having my panetone with tea. Teens not up yet so might head out for a quick walk too

Merry Christmas 🎄

So inspired by your Christmas Buddha. The sea, the grapes, the sparkling wine, the movies. I am saving that plan for later!

Today have my late teen DC asleep upstairs. Been on my own with them and conjouring Christmas out of a cocked hat for a decade (exhausting, last night had about 4 hours sleep, now breakfasting on Marmite sandwiches and Quality Street). Youngest has opened her stocking and been down to give me a hug. I suggested Park Run...."Are you mad" was the response. House needs blitzing to be semi tidy for Christmas Lunch in a few hours. Have to make something elaborate from hipster cookbook to satisfy my eldest. They go to their father tomorrow and I have 200 mile round trip to visit elderly mum. I know I'm on the home straight with Christmas, a few more years of this and will have time on my own and can go and volunteer or drive to the beach or something. Hell, I may even take up Park Run myself!! Merry Christmas One And All!!

buddha We usually do Xmas parkrun but I was woken by a poorly DD at 4am, who then threw up (all contained so no mess, I'm a pro at this a decade in). She's rallied this morning though, whatever it is isn't too grim thank goodness. I'm going for a short run around the block later.

Wishing everyone a peaceful Xmas day .

There were so many of us!!! About 300 I reckon. Next year I am getting into the spirit a bit more, I need a Santa hat or something, everybody was in fancy dress and it was so much fun!
About to jump in the shower, I promise to post some pics of the sea. It’s glorious here, sunny and crisp!

@Porseb I could kill for some panettone! Enjoy!
@BlueWonder enjoy today with your teens!
@megletthesecond do go, it’s glorious out there! Hope your DD is good and it was just too many sweets!

I usually wear my elf hat. The dc's give me looks .

I have a nice xmas present, a new iron I got chatting to last night, let's call him MrSmile. Meeting him on Saturday fingers crossed

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Merry Christmas to all

:)

Thank you Buddha that looks beautiful.
If we're going to buck the big family trend we may as well surround ourselves with beauty.
Here's my view:

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Oh, try again, please @OhamIreally!
I walked the dog and saw all these happy families through the windows. Then I thought of the twats that destroyed mine and cried with anger and grief. Then thought of my new year resolutions and resolved to show myself more love and understanding this coming year, and look after myself better than I have been.
Off to get myself an elf hat :)