A Christmas Day thread for those of us on our own

[BuddhaAtSea]

Turns out I’ll be completely and totally on my own on Christmas Day. I’m a really sociable person, got lots of friends and places to go, but this year it’s too short a notice. DD was meant to go to her dad’s, said she won’t, that she really wants to be home. Got home yesterday and she announced she is going after all 🤯.
I really don’t mind inviting myself to my friends, but you know what, I’ll stay home. I really want to do the parkrun on Christmas morning, then come home and spend the day with my dog. I might take her to the beach, grab a curry on the way back, just mooch about on my own.

You’re cordially invited to join me :)

Me - recently separated but DC live with me. They will go to their dad's family for Xmas dinner but I will have them at breakfast and supper and have my Xmas meal with them on Boxing Day.

Quite looking forward to a relatively stress-free Xmas Day .

Like the sound of what you have planned with run, walk and a lovely curry (no cooking, no washing up!)

@Porseb ☺️ it’s nice you still see them in the morning! And evening! Mine is not so small anymore, so no more stockings at 5 am, I’m lucky if she rolls out of bed at 12! 😂

I'll be on my own for the afternoon / evening. I left my husband and rented a property at the end of October (been divorcing since Jan) I'm actually looking forward to having some time out as not all the kids have stayed with him. Again several invites but I'm looking forward to spending some time on my own ! Will probably head for a beach in the afternoon, not sure about the eve yet ?

Mine aren't are all mid to late teens so won't be getting out of bed too early either.

I have some invites too but I'm strangely really happy to get some time to myself with no big Xmas prep stress.

Sounds like we are all at a similar stage of life :)

Mine are teens too so aren't I usually around in the mormings.
It will interesting to see what time they appear.....

We are, aren’t we?

Christmas has always been about the children, the replies, the shopping, the stress. I don’t think we know how to react when all that is not part of the equation anymore. So there we go, I am learning, alternative years.

The Eve I’ll curl up with the dog and binge watch something on Netflix. I plan cheeses and nice biscuits, grapes and a glass of sparkling something.
I plan to spend most of Boxing Day in bed with a book I have been saving for weeks!!! DD is coming back that day, I’ll get some frozen croissants to throw in the oven, we’ll have brunch together.

Replies?!! I meant rellies!

I'll be with the dc's but I will be mainly ignored or grumbled at so I'll start climbing the walls by lunchtime 🤷‍♀️.

Can I join too? Dd is 2.5 so I am a bit behind you all, but been separated from her abusive father since she was 12 weeks old. He only has indirect contact (court ordered) but haven't heard hide nor tail of him for nearly two years now... thank goodness!

So basically it will be me and her at Christmas, with my mum coming for the day itself, which quite frankly I could do without!

Going to wrap some presents this evening but feeling a bit lonely and pathetic really. As in what's the point?

I really like the sound of a walk on the beach on Christmas day! Miles away from any beach here. I hope you really enjoy it. It's a big build up for 1 day we're 'supposed'to do the same as everyone else. Well I like the sound of your Christmas OP

@shitwithsugaron what happened? Why did you break up?
I broke up with my partner a few weeks back. We were living together, had quite a nice life for ourselves. All gone.

@megletthesecond get there first, run yourself a bath and leave them to it 😂

@justanothergrumblebum so what’s the plan? Does your DD still nap?(I’m out of touch with toddler routine). I would dress up nicely and decorate the table, have a really nice meal and then everybody has a nap. Or put a Christmas movie on and snooze in front of the TV.
The point is you get to spend one of the few Christmas days when your DD still believes in Santa and doesn’t demand shit off pretty little things dot com and ignores your existence 😂

@B0bbin I’ll post a photo for you :) I just checked the forecast, it’s gloriously sunny here the whole of Christmas Day.

Yes she does still nap, but I can see that dwindling in the near future... I work full time, luckily all done for Christmas now, but that's the only hour and a half I get at weekends!

Got my very difficult mum coming over, who will criticise everything that I do for her, wish it could just be us to be honest!

I am about to start wrapping her presents, as usual I've overcompensated! Hey ho. It's tough being single at this time of year, isn't it?

So why is she coming then? Just to kick you in the teeth?

Im on my own Christmas Day till the Sunday. No friends have invited me round (well a few have but very obvious they arent serious).
Got friends but everyone is busy with their families.
Wish i had someone to spend day with me. :-(.

@Waitinginthewings Xmas to Sunday is a long stretch. I hope you find something to keep you busy.

I'm sort of on my own. It's the first Christmas since my marriage ended earlier this year and I'll be on my own Xmas eve and wake up alone Christmas morning. My plan is to go over to their dad's house first thing though before they wake - so about 6.30am!

I was feeling a bit crap about it all, and I've been very avoidant of Christmas up til now. But I'm with my extended family at the moment and I'm now looking forward to some time alone 😂 I'll be back to this family house with dc on Xmas day. I'm planning nice food and a film on Xmas eve

Waves! Me. I'm actually looking forward to it right now. Although I think that on the day I might find it hard.

Although currently dd 19 is refusing to go.

I'm also planning to park run.

Not sure what else really.

@Waitinginthewings you’ll go potty on your own till Saturday!!!! Don’t do that! Go see a movie, do some shopping, arrange to see friends in the new year, join meet up and hang out with other people, go for a walk....please don’t stay copped up for so long, it’s not good for you.

@Misty9 sounds like a plan! Enjoy it!

@Curiousmum69 , hello fellow runner! I am actually really looking forward to the Christmas parkrun, never done it before! Mind, I haven’t run in about 2 weeks because I worked both Saturdays. But I did go to the gym a lot, I do about 6-8 classes a week, I lifted something at work last week and I impressed myself with my new strength 😂

I do have a few plans- Seeing friends on 28th and helping out at local village charity xmas meal on xmas day for an hour.

Im planning on eating nice food, reading a good book (something i never get a chance to do) and maybe going up hill near my house.

I've just realised that the only present under the tree for me will be from one of my old friends, who lives about 350 miles away.

Won't get any from dd, obviously, got the dreaded parcel from the ex in-laws, addressed to both of us but containing all manner of weird shit for her. It's sad that because of their son, they will never know their granddaughter. Let her stay up to watch the snowman, instantly regretted my life decisions when she then refused to go to bed...

Sitting outside her room now, might just stay here as downstairs is a complete bomb site

Can I join?

Broke up with ex in August so first Christmas without the kids (have 4 children and baby's first Christmas also so feeling it!) I have them tomorrow for Xmas eve and until 12/1 on Xmas day then will get them back 12/1 Boxing Day. I am going to my brothers on Xmas afternoon where I plan to have a few drinks to take my mind off it and then Boxing Day morning I plan to stress shop in the sales! 🙈

Can I join? I will be at my ex's family for Christmas dinner with DC but I am regretting accepting the invitation now as I would rather be in bed after spending the day in court today of all days but I don't want to cancel as they must have planned for an extra plate etc . Can't wait for it to be over 😏

@justanothergrumblebum my house is a bomb site too! I plan to tackle it after gym today, and make it a bit more cosy. I’m turning into one of those people: but I have a dog and I’d much rather go to the gym (I’ve lost a stone in a month and it’s getting addictive (I was 2 stones overweight) on a mince pies diet. I am dying for a big crunchy salad, I swear!).

@Waitinginthewings glad to hear you’ve got plans!
@notjustamother I am mentally making lists of what to buy in the sales! Mainly gym stuff though, god, I really am one of those people. But I am losing my trousers running now, so needs must.
@maginachevalier can you go just for the meal, literally, then have the kids dropped back to yours when they’re done? I am planning an afternoon nap already, been up since 5.30!

So, the plan today is: gym in a bit, I have two classes back to back, then home to clean and finish the laundry, then cycle to M&S for some really nice food for myself. Then a nap. DD gets picked up at 7, I’ll then go to the cinema to see Star Wars.
I’ll keep you posted how I get on.