Dd2 wants to know why daddy hasn't rung her and when he is going to ring her, what the hell do i tell her ?

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He normally rings them on a sunday but hasn't for the past 2 weeks.

He hasn't rung because I told him he couldn't ring or visit again unless things were sorted properly (ie access arrangements made through a soliciter) and I said it for a good reason.

Tbh I thought he would still ring them, or at least ring me to try and talk me round, as thats what he has done in the past, but in the past he didn't have a new girlfriend and her kids to occupy his time.

Anyway what do I say to the kids ?? When dd2 asked me today, said honestly, that I didn't know when he would ring them, and she didn't mention it again, but obviously it is playing on her mind.

What shall I say/do ?

Awww thanks Pg

Tbh Liz I wanted to move anyway, and did try and find an exchange a while ago with no luck. There is no way in hell I will move to somewhere that isn't as good or better than here so for now I am just going to see what happens. I have put an ad up on a housing exchange site and if I get offered anything nice I'll weigh it all up then.

Tbh I wish I could get my brain to think 'sod it, lets just get on with mine and my kids lives and ignore the fact that he even exsists' but it won't seem to do that lol.

I definatly will not be contacting him again now, so it's all up to him, If he rings the kids thats fine but any contact arrangments will have to be made through a soliciter. Tbh I don't think he will ring the kids anyway.

Well , if its anything like here, things seem to blow up, then cool off again.

You may find you WILL find strength from being low, then getting back up again. Keep you name on that list, who knows what may turn up.

There is no rule thats says you have to stay where you are for the rest of your lives. His new relationship may well be a flash in the pan.

Tbh I feel alot better since he left. The kids seemd to realise that they are being treated unfairly and as sad as that is, I think is helped them to understand why I am not as happy as can be at the mo. I think the girls realise now that I am trying so hard to fight their corner and thats why I am a grumpy cow LOL.

It is also of comfort to me to know that 2 people so far that know me and xp's gf, have decided that what she has done is not on and have snubbed her in the street. As childish as I may sound, I am pleased. I have known people around here alot longer than her and it is nice to know that I do have friends in all of this.

Oh nutty sorry to see all this.

It's a difficult one but I wonder if it's worth seeing CAB re access arrangements, if you think the kids would like it.

Sorry to be stupid but isn't he supposed to pay you something? Or not if he isn't working?

Don't get too hung up on his new gf, I bet it's not a long-lived relationship, and as you say, why should you uproot everyone over it?

Hope you feel better in the morning or soon.

Hi Clary, just started a new thread in LP, it is good too