Hi
Has any one managed to do this?
I wont go into great detail as I have posted on here a few times before about my situation. My son’s Dad has had no contact for 4 years. DS is 5. He pays maintenance via a DoE however it goes unpaid more than it is paid.
My son is known by my surname, and he chooses this. He hasn’t ever know a different name which I felt was right as there has been no involvement with his Dad's side of the family. Me and my son have discussed his different name which he gets upset that he doesn’t want to have a different name to me, and this his name is .......... and he doesn't want a different one.
As his passport is due for renewal I bit the bullet and I contacted his dad via email. After 3 attempts, he finally responded when I contacted him on his work email to say he will give me a response within the day. Nearly a week later I chased him today to get a response ‘I haven’t forgotton about this. I am giving it some thought. You can expect my response within the following week’.
How would you take this? Will he come back with terms do you think? I don’t understand what there is to think about. He has had zero contact with him in 4 years and has made no attempt to have a relationship with him. I am just trying to do what is in my son’s best interests and make his life easier. I am not asking for him to have his PR removed, just to honour his son’s wishes to be legally known by my name and make it easier for him when we travel. Failing his consent to his name change I have requested a letter of permission for him to travel. Something he also wishes to think about.
Maybe I am being abit sensitive but I don’t understand what there can be to think about. I am not stopping any relationship. He has just chosen to not have one. It's also made me feel sick. This is a man who revelled in controlling me. I just feel like ive handed him control again despite his long absense.
TIA x