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I have been asked out on Sunday night...should I go??

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Pinkchampagne · 07/08/2007 23:15

It is with the man that I met briefly while out back in December, and got into trouble with ex H for receiving a text from him.

I recently text him to give him my new mobile number, and tonight he has asked if I want to meet him for a drink on Sunday night!

Ex H is meant to be having the boys on Sunday, so there is no reason why I can't go, but it feels a bit strange.
Also, I had had a few drinks back in December when I spoke to him, and I can't for the life of me remember what he looks like!!

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charliecat · 08/08/2007 15:39

Sorry So you are going yes? And your going to come right in and log on and tell us how it went yeah?

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Pinkchampagne · 08/08/2007 15:45

Well I have kind of said yes, but I might change my mind yet!

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charliecat · 08/08/2007 15:46

No you cant now, we are all hanging onto our seats. Well, I am anyway lol

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Pinkchampagne · 08/08/2007 15:53

Lol! Well if I do end up going, I promise to report back after!

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charliecat · 08/08/2007 15:55

Good

citylover · 08/08/2007 16:12

Hi PC

I'd say go.

Am seeing someone now and it is great fun! Never expected it to happen in a million years

But I also agree that you have to waituntil you feel the time is right.

What is your gut instinct?

fawkeoff · 08/08/2007 16:15

u should deffo go for the drink
be nice for u anyway after the week uve had with ur keys

Tinkerbel5 · 08/08/2007 16:16

go and enjoy yourself !!!!!

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Pinkchampagne · 08/08/2007 16:48

I don't know what my gut instinct is tbh. In one way I think I should go as he seems really nice & it might be nice to have a bit of male company again, but another part of me is pulling back because it is still quite early days, and it will feel a bit strange to meet up with another man IYKWIM?

I also really can't remember what he looks like at all! He remembers me right down to my perfume, so was obviously FAR more sober than I was that evening!

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FioFio · 08/08/2007 16:50

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fawkeoff · 08/08/2007 16:50

lol even if u dont bother with him again it will be nice for u to just get out, its not like u have to move him in and marry him after sunday........just go and enjoy urself,u'll probably kick urself if u dont.

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Pinkchampagne · 08/08/2007 17:05

Naughty Fio!

Just double checked that ex H is definitely going to have them overnight on Sunday, and he says he is, but he was planning on cooking a meal for my parents on Sunday too!!

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Pinkchampagne · 11/08/2007 18:15

Got to make my decision this evening, and I'm really torn in the middle - I'm not sure at all whether to go go or not.

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Pinkchampagne · 11/08/2007 23:12

go go indeed, think I got a bit distracted there!

I made the decision to go for it tomorrow night. I almost feel like I'm doing something I shouldn't though, for some odd reason.

He is picking me up at 7.30pm, and offered to either take me for a drink or a meal, depending on how I feel tomorrow night.

I am very nervous!

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Freckle · 12/08/2007 02:40

Well, you're bound to be nervous. This is the first time you've gone out with a man in many years.

But, relax. Go out and enjoy yourself. There are no strings attached and nothing is required of you other than that you be good company. Once you've got this under your belt, the next time will be so much easier.

tribpot · 12/08/2007 07:36

Of course you should go. Only for god's sake make sure your parents don't find out (makes us sound like we're 15 or something).

Is there a chance of xH changing his mind about having the boys tonight? Might be as well just to let the guy know if that falls through you won't be able to go, just so he doesn't think you're chickening out at the last minute.

Having said that, you did say initially you'd meet in a public place, but now he's picking you up? I'm sure he's a perfectly nice guy but keep yourself safe. And ENJOY!

Tinkerbel5 · 12/08/2007 09:01

you had betting not be backing out Pinkchampagne go and have a good time, have a glass of wine before you go if you need too, dont tell your ex or your family whats happening incase something happens and you dont get to go out, have fun.

Tinkerbel5 · 12/08/2007 09:02

*better

EscapeFrom · 12/08/2007 09:03

Hell yeah you should go!

Will read thread now

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Pinkchampagne · 12/08/2007 09:23

Hmmm, I have had doubts about him picking me up too. I agreed to it because I was feeling nervous about walking into the bar alone & not being 100% sure who he was, and he seems quite trustworthy, but you can never be sure can you?
Might change my mind about him coming round for me, and meet him there instead, asking him to stand in a very obvious place!

Won't tell my parents or ex H. Ex H knows I'm going out tonight, but doesn't know anymore than that, and won't do - it could cause too much trouble, despite the fact he has been doing far more than just drinking with someone recently!

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Tinkerbel5 · 12/08/2007 09:26

arrange to meet him at the bar and then turn up 5 minutes late so you know he is definately there, or get him to call you when he arrives, if you dont feel comfortable him coming to the house then definately meet him somewhere.

tribpot · 12/08/2007 09:30

Really PC. I bet your xH has been keeping that one quiet from your parents, given his "poor me" routine and the continued wearing of his wedding ring?!

Anyway, I can understand why you agreed to it as it does solve the awkward 'what the heck do you look like?' moment but you could arrange to meet him outside the pub, or as you say, in a very obvious place.

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Pinkchampagne · 12/08/2007 09:35

Yes, think I will do that, Tinkerbel5.
Apart from anything else, I have experienced strange obsessive stalker types, so feel it is maybe a bad idea for men to know your address right away.

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Pinkchampagne · 12/08/2007 09:37

I started a thread on it a while back tribpot, it was also with a parent at the school I work!

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charliecat · 12/08/2007 09:37

swap mobile numbers meet him in car park. stand couple mins away from where your meeting and tell him to text you when hes 2 mins away.

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