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Update on 'my xp is going to ask my friend out'

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nutcracker · 11/07/2007 17:17

Well, xp is a lying tosser.

Last time he was here, he mentioned her again and so I asked him if he'd seen her, asked her out etc, and he said no.

However, today is her birthday, and when I saw her mum at the school, she said 'guess who XXX, had a card off', and guess who it was ? Yep xp.

I said to her mum that I knew he liked her, and she said 'yeah he's been like flies round shit with her for the past few weeks'.

What a tosser, he couldn't tell the truth if his life depended on it.

Oh and surprise surprise, tommorow he has offered to collect the kids from school 'for me'. There was me thinking it was only because he has to sign on, but obviously now there is another attraction.

Oh and she is just as bad, cos she hasn't said a single word to me about it.

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nutcracker · 11/07/2007 18:16

Can't believe how pissed off this has made me.

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LIZS · 11/07/2007 18:23

sorry. Have you asked her about it ? What is it that irks you -the "relationship" , the lying ? Can you turn it to your advantage perhaps.

IwillgotoHellforthis · 11/07/2007 18:23

twat!

silly cow!!

your best off without them both x

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 11/07/2007 18:25

Poor cow.

Imagine ending up with him.

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nutcracker · 11/07/2007 18:28

It is the lying and the fact that he just had to pick someone on my doorstep that pisses me off.

I now know i was right that she knew something when she was questioning me about him the other week.

She is a gobby cow, I mean she has told her mum, and she hates her mum never has a good word to say about her, so if she has told her who else knows.

Her mum said she isn't interested, but I know her well enough to know that that probably isn't true.

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nutcracker · 11/07/2007 18:30

If he is doing it to piss me off then he is doing a good job. I just don't need this right now.

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nutcracker · 11/07/2007 18:32

I think she got her mum to tell me on purpose.

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LIZS · 11/07/2007 18:34

More likely she's as gobby as her daughter ! Some friend , sounds like they deserve each other.

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nutcracker · 11/07/2007 18:35

Yeah they probably do.

I mean what does he expect me to think ? If he starts a relationship with her, he will be turning up at her flat to see her and her kids whilst his own kids sit yards down the street wondering why he doesn't bother with them.

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Tinkerbel5 · 12/07/2007 09:57

nutcracker you really need to show that you are not bovvered even if it churns you up inside, I would leave them both to their little game playing and if anything encourage her to go out with her and make it look like she would be doing you a huge favour by getting him out of your hair

Tinkerbel5 · 12/07/2007 09:58

go out with him that is.

expatinscotland · 12/07/2007 09:59

She's a dumb ass.

LIZS · 12/07/2007 10:00

Do your kids get on ? If so he may be more inclined to take them out - a double edged sword it may be though .

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nutcracker · 12/07/2007 10:01

It is the sneaking around and them trying to keep it secret that bothers me.

Xp rang last night and I asked him what was going on and he said nothing. Reckons he has only ever been there twice, for about half hour each time, and that yeah he sent her a card.

Couldn't explain why her mother would use the expression 'like flies round shit' and was quite pissed off that she had said that.

I think he is lying, he kept laughing (he was also drunk).

I told him, if he wants to have a relationship with anyone then that was fine with me, but why do it on my doorstep, and why be so secretive.

I saw her this morning too, and we were talking about this and that and still she never said, about the cups of tea or the card.

The whole thing is just pissing me off. Why pretend to be my friend and then be so decietful.

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HuwEdwards · 12/07/2007 10:03

If you let on that it isses you off, it will add 'spice' to their relationship.

March up to her, say with a big smile on your face (if poss) 'christ, you're scraping the bottom of the barrel with my hand-me-downs aren't you?'

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nutcracker · 12/07/2007 10:03

Liz - Hell would freeze over before i'd let him take her kids and mine out together. They get on sort, of, but her youngest is a bully, and anyway, I am not having him use the kids as some sort of dating tool. He can't be arsed with them now, so why, use them just to have a reason to see her.

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lou33 · 12/07/2007 10:03

i agree with not rising to it nutty

it used to drive exh bonkers when he would tell me about women he had shagged since we split, and i couldnt have cared less

he was only doing it for a reaction, but as i really wasnt interested, he never got one

i just felt sorry for whoever they were putting up with him, even if it were just for a night!

best thing to do is not let him see it affects you, if he knows it does he will use it against you

as for your mate, i'm pretty sure you could cope without her in your life

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nutcracker · 12/07/2007 10:04

Oh you've jut reminded me Lou. He reckons he only ever asked me what i'd think if he asked her out, to see what reaction he would get.

I think that is crap. I know he fancies her, her told me ages ago when we were still together.

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lou33 · 12/07/2007 10:08

he's an idiot nutty

he sounds pretty pathetic

i can only think he is spurred on more by the fact she is under your nose, so he can try and prove to you that he is the gorgeous six pack of a hunk that he sees when he looks in the mirror

oliveoil · 12/07/2007 10:09

next time her mum starts (and she sounds a gossip imo) say "oh no way, poor girl! He is such a fuckwit (or whatever) she needs him like a hole in the head ahahahahahahahahahah"

and don't ask xp anything whatsoever, at all

it will wind him up that you do not care (even if you do, pretend not to)

and I would steer clear of this 'friend' as well, if my friend has split up with the father of her children and he started sending me cards I would not be impressed, let alone go out with him

they sound a shower of b@st@rds (to coin one of dh's phrases) and you are well rid

how did your job applications go? have you investigated a typing course?

lou33 · 12/07/2007 10:12

lol

shower of bastards

i like that

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nutcracker · 12/07/2007 10:13

I know I am probably over reacting, especially as I am not keen on the girl in questin either, and couldn't care less if she never spoke to me again. I think it's just annoying me that he is doing it to wond me up and it's working.

I will not mention it to him again.

As for the mum, yep she is a gossip, and when she told me that yesterday, I said, 'well she needs to tell him if she's not interested then', which is what her mum was making out.

Am just majorly stressed today and need this like a hole in the head.

Anyway, will try and out it out of my head and calm down a bit.

Oo - I rang for new course brochure yesterday, so should be here sat i hope.
Waiting to hear from 2 jobs I think, possibly 3, have applied for that many I can't remember.

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LIZS · 12/07/2007 10:17

Did you call back about the interview, any luck with a baby sitter ? You getting a job would be one in the eye for him, show him up for the waste of space that he is !

oliveoil · 12/07/2007 10:18

good for you, concentrate on the job application etc and ignore these people

they are trying to drag you down, rise above it

(shower of bastards is good isn't it? )

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nutcracker · 12/07/2007 10:32

Very god Oo

Have tried to ring HR at the hospital 4 times and it just rings out. I still have no babysitter either.

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