So, xp is plannning on asking my friend out

[NuttyMuffins]

Well I say friend, her kids go to the same school as mine, and I posted a few weeks ago about her getting on my nerves cos she was always wanting to come round etc, anxd that we really didn't have alot in common, other then being single parents.

Anyway, xp met her last year when she was staying with her mum who lives opposite me. I knew then that he fancied her, could just tell.

Anyhow, since then I know he has spoken to her when ever he picks the kids up from school, and am pretty sure they have swapped mobile numbers.

About 80% of me thinks that if he does ask her out she will say no, but the other 20% thinks that she will say yes. They are quite similar, both got one track minds and both quite loud.

So, am I bothered ? Weirdly yeah I am, not because I want him, but why her ?? Even if they only see each other as friends, I don't want her knowing all about me, and xp has a big mouth so I know he would tell her everything about our relationship, sex and all.

Also, how come he gets to move on with his life, whilst mine stands still, or even goes backwards.

[NuttyMuffins]

Don't think she will tell me either, if he does asxk her out, cos i know he popped into hers on the way from here the other week and she never said.

[Ulysees]

oh heck I can understand how you feel. Is he quite immature then? Not nice if he's going to spill the beans on your life. I wouldn't want to know much if it was me.

I know you feel like your life is going backwards now but it will pick up. Are you still in love with him? I just split from my dh in December but it was my choice. He almost feels like a stranger now it's weird.
Don't think I'd like him dating someone I know but he's not the type to talk about things and anyway he doens't like sex!

[Ulysees]

doesn't*

[Aimsmum]

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[NuttyMuffins]

No I don't love him, haxdn't for along time even before we split, and the split was my choice.

I think I am annoyed because when we split, I thought my life would be so much better and it isn't, no where near it.

He on the other hand, is living the life of riley, he has a bedsit a few miles from here but spends most of his time at his sisters about an hour away, anxd goes out for a xdrink several times a week etc, doesn't really have to pay his way as his parents keep giving him money.

I think it would have felt weird even if it was someone i didn't know, mainly because only last week I was apparently still his soulmate and he'd love me forever etc.
It being someone I know is just crap really.

[NuttyMuffins]

Tbh i think that she will probably say no to going out with him but yes to some sex.

She is only 23 and he is 49. Part of me thinks he is doing it just to see if he can do it again ie get a younger model. I was 18 and him 38 when he met me.

[Grooveisintheheart]

ewwwwww, thats just too close to home isnt it.

i hope she says no.

[NuttyMuffins]

Woulxd be interesting to see how much time he spent round here though if she said yes. As it is he sees the kids roughly once a fortnight, becauxse of lack of money for travel.

Oh and before I forget. When i spoke to him the other night, i asked him how he was job hunting when he isn't even in the area most of the time. His answer was 'fgs aren't I allowed a break'. Have to say, I nearly choked with rage.

[NuttyMuffins]

Really wishing I had brought wine today now.

[Ulysees]

49! then he shouldn't be talking about you. some people just never grow up. Are you sure he'd do that? Yuck if he does.

I hope she does say no. Could he be trying to get you jealous?

[Ulysees]

Or did you mean choke him with rage

[Aimsmum]

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[NuttyMuffins]

Yep he would i think, and she is quite a gossip too, so an all round crap situation.

Not sure about the jealousy thing tbh, i know he does fancy her so probably not. He actually said 'what would you say if i asked XXX out'.
I said 'nothing to do with me do what you like'.

I only said that because I don't want him to think I am bothered in that way, which i am not.

Fucks sake, why does he get to have a nice rosy life.

[lou33]

we have such similar exh's!

the same night mine was trying to convince me to go back to him, saying he was suicidal and his life meant nothing without me and hte kids, he went round and shagged a friend of mine, then told me about it afterwards expecting a reaction

of course he didnt get any

then he got a girl in thailand pg, she is 21 and he is almost 45

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

DP is my exes best friend. We split on really good terms and atre still very close, and a few months later I got together with DP. 8 years and 2 children later we are very happy, and the ex is happily married. There are no issues whatsoever.
Similarly, DP's ex is our childrens godmother.

[Ulysees]

If only we could all be so civil DWP Sounds like a great situation all round. This ex sounds a bit different though eh?

[NuttyMuffins]

Frighteningly similar Lou.

Presumably devil, you are all on good terms and won't go talking about wach others sex lives behind backs though, which is grown up and responsible. One thing xp isn't is grown up, and neither is the friend particularly.

[NuttyMuffins]

Next thing, someone will give him a job without him even trying, just to pis me off even more. Whilst i'm here filling in form after form and getting nowt.

[NuttyMuffins]

Just so annoys me how he gets to leave here, leaving me to do dinner, bath time, bedtime, basically everything 24/7, whilst he gets on with his life.

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

Very true, this situation is different!

[Ulysees]

for you nutty

[tiredemma]

I would tell her what a useless feck he is.

[compo]

I would have told him he was out of order asking your friend out tbh.
Does he ever do teatime, bath and bed with kids? Don't see why he shouldn't!

[charliecat]

Try not to let this get to you Nutty. He is so so SSOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO not a catch FGS , remember that.
And while your life may not YET have more onwards and upwards you havent got that lazy wretch bringing you down. xxxx

[NuttyMuffins]

He doesn't do anything with the kids, sweet FA.

Since we split, he has taken them out once anxd that is it. Doesn't give me a penny for them either.

Whe he said 'fgs aren't I allowed a break', i asked him where the fuck my break was then, cos i am damn sure i am due one by now, and he said 'you always have to turn it into an argument'.

If i tell him I don't want him to ask her out then he will think i am still interested in him.

He is still rolling the same 'when i get a job things will be different' line, and it's such a load of crap. Whilst he has been at his sisters (3 weeks) he hasn't even looked for work, let alone applied for any.