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So, xp is plannning on asking my friend out

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 17:17

Well I say friend, her kids go to the same school as mine, and I posted a few weeks ago about her getting on my nerves cos she was always wanting to come round etc, anxd that we really didn't have alot in common, other then being single parents.

Anyway, xp met her last year when she was staying with her mum who lives opposite me. I knew then that he fancied her, could just tell.

Anyhow, since then I know he has spoken to her when ever he picks the kids up from school, and am pretty sure they have swapped mobile numbers.

About 80% of me thinks that if he does ask her out she will say no, but the other 20% thinks that she will say yes. They are quite similar, both got one track minds and both quite loud.

So, am I bothered ? Weirdly yeah I am, not because I want him, but why her ?? Even if they only see each other as friends, I don't want her knowing all about me, and xp has a big mouth so I know he would tell her everything about our relationship, sex and all.

Also, how come he gets to move on with his life, whilst mine stands still, or even goes backwards.

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 19:11

Oh and friend thinks I had no reason to get rid of him in the first place. Her ex was a druggy so my reasons for getting rid of my man are sily in her opinion.

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LucyJones · 15/06/2007 19:12

She's not much of a friend if she agrees to go out with him. Do you think she will?

charliecat · 15/06/2007 19:12

Nutty, remember hes a tosspot, not a great catch.

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 19:14

Oh i know he's no great catch ansd if she says yes then she deserves everything she gets.

Tbh we aren't friend friends iykwim. Without wanting to sound like a complete snob, she is a bit rough and has too much to say for herself.

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 19:15

If i had to say one way or the other, I think she will say no, but i want to see if she tells me he asked, and i don't think she will.

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charliecat · 15/06/2007 19:16

Maybe she could put him in his place with her big gob?

Deep breath.

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 19:17

LOL, maybe

I did always know that he would start seeing other people before me, just didn't expect it to be so close to home.

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charliecat · 15/06/2007 19:19

And whoever the poor bitvh is will have to put up with his groping and lewd remarks.
Well Shot Nutty

tiredemma · 15/06/2007 19:19

Let her have him nutty- ooh lets see an unemployed/unemployable man, living in a bedsit. Divine.
She sounds like they would be perfect for each other

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 19:20

I so want to show him that I can move on and make my life better but I seem to be stuck fasxt in crappy crap crap crap land at the mo LOL.

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charliecat · 15/06/2007 20:08

Better to be on your own than with some complete deadbeat twat just to prove you can pull.
Your waiting for someone who deserves you.

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 20:39

Yeah I know, am just very impatient and lonely.

I feel a bit abandoned, which is stupid, cos i chucked him out, but i think in all honesty, although I realised he would never be good at contact etc with them, I really thought that by now, I might at least have one weekend a month where I could go out and let my hair down.

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agnesnitt · 15/06/2007 20:49

At least you can have the safe warm feeling of knowing you told him to sling his hook. He's scrabbling about trying to replace you m'dear, you're not reduced to crawling about looking to make the ex jealous

Agnes

expatinscotland · 15/06/2007 20:59

No. 1, he's a TWAT for even thinking of asking her out.

No. 2, she's an eejit if she shags him or goes out with him.

No. 3, I hope he realises how lucky he is having children with you and not me, because you know what, I'd take them round to his and then LEAVE for a couple of hours at least. None of this he comes to yours and hangs out.

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 21:02

Thanks Agnes

If he had a flat expat then thats what i'd do, but he has a shitty bedsit with no room to even swing a cat, and there is no way I am leaving them there with him.

He has applied for a flat on this estate and is 25th on the list. Still dunno if that is good or not. Good for the kids maybe, and me if i get break, but not that he will be able to practically watch my every move.

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 21:03

Hmm did that come across as me being arsey expat ? wasn't meant to lol.

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expatinscotland · 15/06/2007 21:05

I would leave them there anyway, Nutty.

It won't kill them. And you know, theyn he'd have to take them to the park or that.

FUCK HIM! You deserve a break, so go and get one, it's not like he's going to put in the effort. TWAT.

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 21:08

But he wouldn't take them to the park expat, I know him. He'd stick a video on and ignore them, and thats not fair on them, just cos i want/need a break.

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expatinscotland · 15/06/2007 21:15

It's equally unfair on them to have a mum in desperate need of a break.

It won't kill them to watch a video.

So he ignores them, so he shows them just what a complete tit he is.

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NuttyMuffins · 15/06/2007 21:17

Hmm maybe but tbh he is rarely at the bedsit anyway. He comes back to sign on and then goes back up to stay with his sister in Derbyshire and plays with her kids all week, and there is no way I can get them there.

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charliecat · 17/06/2007 20:00

Did he nutty?

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NuttyMuffins · 17/06/2007 21:30

Dunno, not spoken to him or her. Will see her tommorow morning.

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charliecat · 17/06/2007 21:33

Ok, wanna update!

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NuttyMuffins · 17/06/2007 21:36

LOL, I don't think she will say anything even if he does ask her, and I am not gonna ask her incase he hasn't yet said anything.

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mistressmiggins · 17/06/2007 21:37

agree with Expat

my ex came last weekend for a day visit.
was here 5 hrs
he had time to read "News of the World"
came home & they were in my house watching TV

tosser

if I only saw my kids once a fortnight, I would lap it up
he sees it as a inconvenience & MUST read his paper.....

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