So, xp is plannning on asking my friend out

[NuttyMuffins]

Well I say friend, her kids go to the same school as mine, and I posted a few weeks ago about her getting on my nerves cos she was always wanting to come round etc, anxd that we really didn't have alot in common, other then being single parents.

Anyway, xp met her last year when she was staying with her mum who lives opposite me. I knew then that he fancied her, could just tell.

Anyhow, since then I know he has spoken to her when ever he picks the kids up from school, and am pretty sure they have swapped mobile numbers.

About 80% of me thinks that if he does ask her out she will say no, but the other 20% thinks that she will say yes. They are quite similar, both got one track minds and both quite loud.

So, am I bothered ? Weirdly yeah I am, not because I want him, but why her ?? Even if they only see each other as friends, I don't want her knowing all about me, and xp has a big mouth so I know he would tell her everything about our relationship, sex and all.

Also, how come he gets to move on with his life, whilst mine stands still, or even goes backwards.

[NuttyMuffins]

MM

I feel so guilty that I gave them such a tosser for a father.

[mistressmiggins]

Nutty - you didnt know that when you got together
being a good partner is not the same as good dad
some men arent able to be a good dad
not your fault or mine

[NuttyMuffins]

No very true, still makes me feel shite though.

I just so wish he would wake up and be part of their lives.

[mistressmiggins]

he may never

my ex rang tonight & he genuinely doesnt sound bothered that today was father's day & he missed it
he is more interested in telling kids what hes done this week even though clearly they werent part of it
he wouldnt be bothered by fact DS cried tonight cos he has severe eye infection, needs drops & I said if he didnt let me administer them, he may not be able to come on holiday - poor lamb cried & I felt awful explaining I would never leave him or go on holiday without him - ex would & has done - but ex will never beleive that a 3 1/2 yr could be affected by his leaving

you just need to keep going & bite your tongue
harder said than done but I believe when my children are adults, they will realise Ive been a good mum & unfortunately their dad could have done better

[tiredemma]

mistressm and nutty- you know, your children wont be children forever, At some point they will become mature enough to see to useless fecks that they have as fathers, and also see just how hard it was for their mothers to give them a stable upbringing.

when they are older it is you that they will turn too and you that they will love and respect with all their hearts.

if there is any justice in the world (lemar???) both of your useless Xp' s will grow up to be miserable, lonely old men- sitting in their own faeces and piss with no-one to help them - hopefully.

[NuttyMuffins]

Yeah, am hoping mine will come to the same conclusion Mm.

[NuttyMuffins]

Ok saw friend today and I reckon he has asked her, or at least been talking to her alot, because all she seemed to want to talk about was him.

[charliecat]

OMG Good god. Its quite distasteful really isnt it?
Actually, my x, 1 day after splitting up started to ask about my best friends single mum of 3 neighbour
Never mentioned her before but was suddenly asking questions about her, I said go and ask her your fecking self.

[NuttyMuffins]

{shock] they have no shame.

I could be wrong but it's odd that he says he is gonn ask her out and then next thing she is round here asking loads of questions about him. She asked when i was seeing him again ? wether I would have him back ?, and lots of other little things thrown in at the end of other questions.

She said, 'oh he is always talking to me, but he seems to forget that I know what he is like cos you have told me'

Think she was trying to convince herself not me.

[charliecat]

LOL, probably. If he does ask her out, and if she does say yes, you KNOW he cant keep up the My Nice Guy act for long.
So you do have the upper hand. You may be single, but your are happy and not settling for any old cretin.