If your contact is not court ordered...

[JustlikeDevon]

Who sorts dates? Xh used to have dd EOW until he moved 300 miles away. He now says I'm blocking contact because I don't text him to organise dates. As far as I'm concerned dd can do this (teen) but he won't accept this. Am I supposed to chase him for times to see her or is this his responsibility? I've never withheld contact I just don't advertise her! Thanks :)

He moved. So would argue it is up to him to sort. How old is teenager, 13 might need more motivation/help than a 15 year old. If ex texting you to organise something then you texting back to confirm availability etc sounds reasonable. If however, he expects you to text to sort out every contact (so you are doing the chasing every time) then that is unreasonable.

I would say if he has moved and there is no agreed arrangement now, its down to him to arrange - via you / DC. However have you suggested a new formal arrangement - even if that is 1 x per month ? If he messages you to request contact, I would suggest you do need to reply.

Totally down to him to arrange with you. He's looking for an excuse to be a deadbeat. Just let him show his colours, I imagine dc already knows what's happening.

Thank you, good advice and v correct about the dead beat dad!!