Emotionally abusive, controlling ex

[Bambi99]

Hi I am soon to be split from my parter, he can be at times emotionally abusive and often controlling, his family are also. I know as soon as we finally split that it's gonna be hell. Does it get any better, does their need for control calm down... I'm feel sick with worry.

Do you have children?

Yeh I have two. X

How old are they?

It will be more difficult to disengage from their control with the children as excuses, but it can be minimised.

You can limit contact to via a third person or to written media only (email, text, notes).
You can do exchanges at neutral places instead of your home.

If you have evidence you can apply for court orders to safeguard you.

If you give practical examples, MN will help with with loads of suggestions and hold your hand through the process.