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This week my ex hates me because...

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surlycurly · 07/08/2018 21:20

Just thought some of you might want to play this game with me...

This week my ex hates me because I won't collect our children from his wedding reception. Too weird for me I'm afraid than to poo in and collect them with all the same guests from our wedding there Grin.

Last week he hated me because I was annoyed that he's moving to Norway and I only found out through the kids. I may have mentioned that I wasn't very happy about finding out that way.

Why does your ex hate you this week?

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eve34 · 09/08/2018 16:04

I don't hate him. It is a waste of energy. It takes a lot of effort to stay angry.

The children will see him for the sad selfish man that he is.

And that annoys the hell out of him that I don't give him any attention at all. So satisfying.

crocsaretoocoolforschool · 09/08/2018 16:10

Because our older daughter wouldn't feed his step son's rabbit whilst he took his wife, step son and our youngest child on a holiday that he didn't invite our oldest daughter on

Gosh that sounds complicated

HugeAckmansWife · 10/08/2018 06:04

My ex hates me because after he left for ow I managed to put our lives back together again and an doing much better than him in financial terms. His situation is a mess and apparently its my fault.

betrayedandwobbly · 10/08/2018 06:41

I am wearily fed up with him this week because he has - yet again - done something I explicitly asked him not to. And instead of being pleased/grateful or at least accepting, I asked him 'Did you not hear me, or understand me? Or just plain not respect me enough to realise I meant what I said, and that if it didn't work for you, you shouid say so at the outset so we can sort it out properly; rather than just ignore ignore me'

(Unsurprisingly he is now sulking. But will probably continue to ignore everything I say. With hindsight, there were a lot of manifestations of selfishness from really quite early on in the marriage)

jelly449 · 10/08/2018 07:49

This is a long one....but this week my ex hates me for not letting the dcs go on holiday with his new gf...the reasons why are as follows:

  • ex only been with the new gf a few weeks
  • dcs still think he's with his old gf who they had a great relationship with. He didn't tell them they split up.
  • dcs still think that the old gf is going on holiday with them as they booked it all together last year
  • ex dumped old gf for new gf (cheating twat) and expects the dcs to just deal with it.
  • ds is autistic, having a bad time at the moment. Ex doesn't care about this.
  • ex also says his new gf will be bringing her 4 dcs on holiday also. This is not good for ds. He would not cope with that at all.

I give him all the above reasons for the dcs not going on holiday with their dad if the new gf is going.

I get told I need to stop controlling him as apparently I lost that 'privilege' when we split up 5 years ago.....oh I am devastated Hmm

Clearly can't see that I don't give a f**k about him, I just don't want him messing the dcs heads up.

PerverseConverse · 10/08/2018 09:07

This week he hates me because I've got a new solicitor who has told him he's going to have to do things so the divorce can be finalised. 5 years since I filed for divorce and still not divorced because he keeps delaying it. He's got 2 more kids with his gf (OW) and claims he wants to get remarried yet he's delaying our divorce at every turn Hmm

Starlight345 · 10/08/2018 16:40

I am enjoying this thread reminds me how lucky I am he dropped off the face of the planet.

I have no idea what he thinks about me nor care. I feel nothing at all for him now.

WhirlyGigWhirlyGig · 10/08/2018 17:06

Because after 15 years of paying a paltry amount of maintenance and never voluntarily increasing it, I insisted he increased it. Apparently he's going to be very poor now. Oh boohoo, you'll have to cut down to one holiday a year then 🙄

Queenofthedrivensnow · 10/08/2018 18:09

@jelly449 I really feel for you and yanbu. I know your ex won't get it because like mine he can only meet his own needs and not consider other people's.
I have said to exh in the past - don't forget is exh first, exh second and if there's anything left over at the end it's exh's. It's true

Skyejuly · 10/08/2018 18:11

I won't change the dates that he took me to court over. So No, I won't change.

Whatififall · 10/08/2018 18:26

This week he hates me as DD has refused to go to her access visit as the plans he’d made were for her to go and watch him play football. She does not want to do that (understandably, it’s not like he’s in the Premier league). This is obviously my fault.

This week I hate him for being so self-centred and arranging to play football during DD’s time with him. He sees her for 8 hours a month (4 hrs fortnightly) and yet still can’t find any other time to do random things than during their time. She’s 8 now and while I maintain a centre-line, non-commital stance on him she is starting to see him for what he really is.

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surlycurly · 10/08/2018 23:26

This thread is sad and yet it inspires hope that so many of us are standing strong and putting our DC first. Yes there are women who use their children as pawns, but there are also women that will fight like tigers to stop their children being damaged by those that are supposed to love them the most. Well done you strong, bold ladies. And I salute any of the men that are out there doing it the same way too. We shall protect our babies.

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Queenofthedrivensnow · 11/08/2018 08:55

@surlycurly I don't know anyone who usually their dc as pawns. I think that's a myth spread by men

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surlycurly · 11/08/2018 13:41

Sadly I know several people that do. One mum in particular lacks any basic decency when it comes to her kids not being used as weapons against her ex. Happily people like this are in the minority.

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PerverseConverse · 11/08/2018 13:45

My ex and his gf use my children as pawns in their silly power game. The latest incidents are in the hands of my solicitor Angry

abbsisspartacus · 11/08/2018 13:55

Because I bribed the kids to go to his house I didn't bother getting him a birthday present (petty but he has stopped child support again and just expects me to deal with it) and because I'm pissed at him dodging his responsability while I'm struggling picking up work as a cleaner to make ends meet I'm qualified for so much more but I can't fit it around the school holidays Sad

Pixikitten0123 · 11/08/2018 14:59

This week my ex hates me because I won’t respond to his harassment since he assaulted me last month, he’s stopped paying maintenance nearly 3 months ago and resigned from his job. The kids don’t want to go and apparently I’m damaging and hurting HIS kids - they’re actually fine 😂 no doubt he’s spinning the OW who is 10 years older than me a real web of lies and how hurt he is 😂🙄🤔

Pixikitten0123 · 14/08/2018 20:27

This week he hates me as I’m still refusing to reply to his passive aggressive messages where he continues to blame me for damaging our children - he apparently has forgotten that he’s not paying any maintenance for the kids as he continues his financial abuse of them...
This week as a good mother I have taken the children and bought their school uniforms as I continue to provide a safe, secure and loving home for them.

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surlycurly · 15/08/2018 08:50

Good on you @Pixikitten0123. I did the same thing for my two because apparently he doesn't need to contribute to uniforms anymore now he has a new woman. But the kids will not miss out; I'll do what I have to to make sure they're ok.

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stegosauruslady · 15/08/2018 08:54

because I asked him to talk to me about the arrangements for over the bank holiday. He has had them for a grand total of one weekend and a couple of evenings over the whole summer holiday and I'm pretty sure that he is going to be 'very busy' over the bank holiday in addition to his earlier excuse of 'unable to take any time off work'.

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surlycurly · 15/08/2018 08:58

My ex has cancelled three weeks with the kids this year because of being busy with work. He used to have a spreadsheet that he'd send me in January of all the times he wanted them all year. Now he tries to palm them off onto me all the time.

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RamsayBoltonsConscience · 15/08/2018 09:31

My ex is going to hate me at some point over the next week when he gets the letter from the CMS seeing that I've authorised legal proceedings against him for non-payment of child support. Unfortunately, I won't get to see his rage as neither myself or my ds have seen him for about 6 years but I will be able to imagine it, and it will make me smile.Grin

MonaLisaSimpson · 15/08/2018 09:51

He hates me because our adult DD refuses to see him after years of her feelings and opinions not mattering to him. It's my fault she won't see him, apparently.

I don't hate him because to hate him would mean having to care about him and I don't. I just feel sorry for him.

Pixikitten0123 · 15/08/2018 12:22

After contact from the police this morning he hates me because he’s been told to contact a solicitor to send me a letter which will cost him to ask for a mobile phone number 😂

GEM33 · 24/08/2018 21:57

Haha !!! My ex made me collect our daughter from his wedding reception!! Despite the fact family were driving back my way and could have brought her back for us he refused and insisted I collect her !?!
How I stopped myself from driving my car at 60 through the cheating evil home wreckers marquee I’ll never know. 😂😂
Do you think it’s an emotional abuse thing??? LOL
This week my ex hates me because he wants all the clothes he’s bought her returned back to him because I asked for him to go halves on swimming lessons for her he said it’s frivolous and compared me to a charity asking for donations for homeless children to have swimming lessons ?!?!?!! (I really don’t know where he gets them from)

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