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Sad, lonely, hating life

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Mybabiesandi · 24/03/2018 22:52

Split from him 2 weeks ago and 2nyt kids are at his mums with him. Cleaned the house, washings done, basically all the housework is done! Had a shower and a bath! Changed all the bedding! NOW wtf do I do? All my friends have kids/babies so can't do anything! Really lonely and hating everything right now xx

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Spudina · 24/03/2018 23:05

Chick flick and a glass of wine? Start a good book. Next time, go to the cinema alone (guilty pleasure of mine) go round to a friends for tea and a gossip, take up a hobby, do a fitness thing, really anything you want. I'm sorry you are feeling low OP. I'm not dismissing it at all. But you have an opportunity to do something you want to do on these nights, guilt free, as your kids are being looked after. There are loads of online groups for friendships, one I know runs regular board game nights. Might not be your cup of tea, but I'm sure you can find something that is. Hope you feel better soon. X

Kittykat93 · 24/03/2018 23:05

That sounds tough. Is there anyone you can call for a chat? If not find a good film and settle down with some wine/hot drink. And some nice food.

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Mybabiesandi · 25/03/2018 00:38

Done the bath, book, film and working out lol friends are in very very short supply but that's fine. Just so hard not having my babies here xx

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Mybabiesandi · 25/03/2018 00:42

Sadly hun i don't have anyone, had a bath with a film and some wine and just been so upset as I want my babies. I have no one to help me or support me and if I didn't have them I would have topped myself by now xx

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NorthernSpirit · 25/03/2018 11:20

The kids are allowed a relationship with their dad, so embrace it. It’s hard being a single mum, you work your socks off and get no time to yourself. Well..... now you do. Use the time on you.

If you project these feeling when the kids get home it’s hard in them and they’ll feel divided loyalties.

Only you can change this feeling. Get yourself out there. Join a club, go to a fitness class, do something you’ve always wanted to do and enjoy the time. You deserve this time. Go to your GP and tell them how you feel - they can support you.

Good luck x

eve34 · 26/03/2018 21:23

It is a big adjustment for you. It will take time to get use to having free time. Try to plan something make sure you get out if you can. I am looking at volunteering to fill some of the time the kids are with their dad. Have you tried your local ginger bread or social groups. I have made 3 new friends who are single parents. So I bounce off whoever is free and get out. It takes time. I didn't have a choice in this enforced free time but I know I have to get use to it.

westernchampion · 07/04/2018 16:54

Hi there, hows it going now? I've recently separated and finding it tough. The children are usually here with me or at school but the evenings are the hardest. I don't have anyone, like you but there are people you can talk to. Just posting on here helps. Take care xx

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