Do you ever worry that you will be alone for the rest fo your life ??

[NuttyMuffins]

I do, seems to be a huge possibilty for me.

yes and me who going to take on 3 kids two different fathers one not really around and eldest child has huge attitude especially towards men i dont go out as babysitters are too expensive and do not trust anyone older enough to do it also the ones i do trust i would be out with..lol

Yeah thats a good point speccy, but I so hate being alone.

Just can't see me ever meeting anyone, you have to go out for that to happen don't you.

Oh god I wish that were true

Ok i'll try

I only worry that the longer i am on my own, the more i love it.

I used to get really upset about someone 'taking on my children', but now i choose to see us as a very special gift that someone would be VERY lucky to have in their life.

There is a great difference between being alone, and being lonely. I was very lonely in my marriage when i wasnt alone, but now i am alone but not lonely. But then, i am quite a loner.

I feel the same a 30 year old single parent doesn't seem like much of a catch especially when all your friends are settled down. Where do you go to meet nice single men???

'I only worry that the longer i am on my own, the more i love it.'

Yeah me too, not bother most of the time about being single just occaionally would like to sit with someone in the evening or go out for a meal/to the pub.don't want to live with anyone or get married again though.

Squidette - how long have you been single?

I have been 'just me' for 4 years.

I have more male friends now though, kind and thoughtful ones not fix-me-up-with-a-mate types, thank goodness!

But it is only in the last two years that i have felt more comfy with my singleness. I used to wear my wedding ring when i was with the children so people didnt look down on me (hmmm, maybe said more about how i saw others at that time than how i saw myself i think) then i worried that no-one would be interested if i was wearing it.

I have been single for 6 years in August and apart from a couple of blokes I work with don't actually know many men.

I was preg when we split and was very swollen and unable to wear my ring so have never put it back on.

Yeah do worry about it at times. Don't want to be alone the rest of my life, but would find it hard to trust someone else with my dd.

hi single mums. me too. . . single. been separated for 2nd time . last July and way back in 1994 from my older kids dad. Really want to meet someone nice, had a nice male friend but he wanted more and i didnt fancy him . .shame. !hate being on own especailly at weekends when little ds of 6 yrs goes to dad. my older one of 16 does her own thing mostly and 19 yr old son is away a Uni. so feel lonely sometimes. Have a few potentials in pipeline but feel disallusioned bout men in general. . .they ALL let you down is my experience. ! sad !
Where do you guys all live . wish we could all meet. i live in hampshire.

I am quite happy living with my ds but would sometimes like to have someone to go out for a drink with etc.

I also find that I never go anywhere to meet new people!

Maltesers, I'm in NI so doubt we will ever meet.

Malteasers-Cumbria

Well, I sometimes feel a bit bored and wish some of my friends lived nearer and could pop round, or that I could just go to the pub if I feel like it, but I do have quite a good social life really.
As for dating, couplehood, ugh, never liked it much anyway, always been more of a one for fuckbuddies. Now I just go along to a swingers club every now and again if I want some legover action.

The idea of having to deal with an adult housemate on a day to day basis does not appeal at all.

My DS is 20 months old, and at the moment I'm very happy on my own, without a man around to look after as well!

However, I do sometimes worry that DS won't have any kind of father figure in his life. Also, I worry that when he's older and a bit more independent, I might start to feel lonely. Mind you, having a boyfriend now certainly wouldn't insure against future singledom!

Only split up a month ago but am terrified i will never be loved again, never have sex again, and will live the rest of my days alone and never being in love again!

i do love my independence and having nobody driving me mad in the house, but i cant see me ever meeting someone new.
My dh only left a month ago (my decision) and is already seeing someone else, which is heart breaking as i will never meet anyone who will take on my 2 kiddies and love them as i do.

Absolutely. I split from DH about 4 years ago though we are still trying to divorce... hoping the court date in May will be the last one!

I had a boyfriend for a period of 2 weeks about a year after we split. he was very unstable - had bi-polar disorder - which I had not known about before we got together and first he proposed and got upset when I turned him down and then when he asked for a second change he went straight back to his ex GF who was 20 years older than me!

I then got set up with a guy another year later by friends and it was great to begin with. It fell to pieces when I got pregnant and it turned out the baby was ectopic. He stayed with me in hospital but couldn't cope when it got scary and he fled for the hills citing his depression as the cause. He messed me around and was unable to offer me any support at all and then 5 months later begged for another chance. Despite everyone's warnings I took him back, loaned him money which I never got back and then he just upped and left again, took an overdose and ended up in hospital. None of his friends supported him so again I did, he wheedled his way back in and I helped him cope, took him to doctors when he was unable to, visited him in hospital, allowed him to stay with me when they wanted to have him on day or weekend release to see how he managed and things seemed okay. Then completely out of the blue he had a pyschotic breakdown resulting in him trying to hurl himself out of a 1st floor window and running down the street screaching!

He ended up back in hospital where he was finally diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder... boy do I pick them!! - and that was the end of that. He apologised early this year but the things that happened can never be taken back and I doubt we could even be friends now.

My parents choice of man - sorry mum if you are reading this - did not turn out well though I had idolised him for ages. My choice of husband turned so horrid and ugly and still caused problems for our DS. My friends choice turned out to be horrendous too so I doubt that I will ever have the confidence to meet anyone else and try again.

I work full time and have an 8 year old DS so never really get a chance to meet anyone anyway. I'm not one for going out alone so unlikely to meet anyone there and I recently moved into a new area to get away from my ex DH so although I have been out with work colleagues once I don't know anyone here to go out with on a regular basis.

I am a lot happier now than I have been over the last 5 or 6 years but still I sometimes wonder if I am going to have to settle for happiness alone rather than in a relationship. How could I ever trust anyone or myself for that matter and how could I put my DS through any more bad relationships. Perhaps I owe it more to myself and him to concentrate on making our life as happy and meaningful as I can.

It makes me sad when I look at my parents who have been married for 32 years and when I look at my 24 year old sister who has been with her partner despite all odds since she was 15 and I just can't make a relationship work but I have a lot to be thankful about... namely the love and support of my family and my wonderful if strongwilled DS.

Oops... this is an epic!

Yes dear Mum is reading this
How many times do I have to tell you, your prince will come